- 9 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
@graygodess20: OP, first off, you are very beautiful, and I really do not see why any guy would not be estatic to have you on his arm at a wedding.
But… you are not something to show off, you are his SO! You are worth so much more than just being a beautiful girlfriend for others to admire when you are out together. You share your life with him. Please don’t hurt your body and soul by trying to crash diet and hating your body.
Perhaps, (and I don’t know him, so take this with a grain of salt) your SO is frustrated that you are so focused on your body and how much you weigh. Were you asking him things like “do you wish I was thinner, so you could show me off in front of her?” If so, that is probably why he lashed out at you, because he felt backed into a corner, and he finally just said what he was thinking, because he did not see how to get out of the conversation with you actually being happy.
I know my Fiance wants me to lose weight because it would make ME happier, and it’s a goal of mine. If I was happy at this weight, he would be happy with it as well. He still tells me I’m beautiful now, but he also does not lie and tell me I couldn’t stand to lose a few pounds.
I think this is a guy thing, that women just DO NOT get: you can still be smokin’ hot and gorgeous AND stand to lose a few pounds or tone up. Does that make sense? A lot of guys don’t see the point in not admitting that, when a girl asks if them if she should try to lose some weight.
Five years is a very long time to still worry about his ex. What is it about her that make you so jealous? Did she chase him after the breakup? Was she mean to you and insulted you? Girl, he is with YOU, not her… who cares what she thinks or says!
Talk to him and let him know what he said was hurtful, but be prepared to see his side, too.