(Closed) Why would FI say that?? =( (sorry if its long)

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 77
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Sorry but I read this and I am thinkin um healthy weight? yes your avatar confirms it. This guy is full of shit love yourself and if he cant love that then leave.

Post # 78
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@BothCoasts:  You mistake who’s wedding it is. It’s not OP’s wedding its a friend of hers who happens to be a mutual friend to the  ex. It’s not her wedding dress she feels horrible in, but a dress she bought to wear to her friends wedding.

Post # 80
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Um, based on looking at your avatar..you are INCREDIBLY beautiful. He clearly didn’t think before he uttered that assinine and belittling comment to you. Yup, he was a complete idiot. 

Post # 81
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Barn

Sooo.. I’ll going to be the odd girl out I bet…. My Fiance sounds a lot like yours. He tends to make “stupid” comments like that that may bug me a bit, but by now I’m strong enough to roll things off and understand what he meant by things (he also apologizes all the time but I get his version of things too).

You’ve been with this guy for FIVE years…at this point I have to say you really need to get over the fact that he has an ex. I can see it pissing him off in the way of “come on is she seriously thinking I’m going to go back to my ex? doesn’t she see I’ve been with her for 5 years?” and of course you had to throw the “competition” comment in. I don’t think he meant that he can’t show you off. I think that your comment just pissed him off and he felt like it was just a whole “I’m prettier and better than you” girl comment.

I would just have a talk about it with him….BUT you really do need to move on from the ex.

Trust me…I know. I’ve been with my Fiance for 5 years as well and he has a daughter with his ex. I see her every once in awhile (and soon twice a week once we move in 3 weeks – gah). I remember at the beginning it was hard to see her, and I would constantly say things just to hear him put her down so I would feel better. But then it got to the point where he got sick of saying “shit” about her and that I was so worried. I’m now at the point where I’m truly happy and I know she means absolutely nothing to him. I’m the one that he stuck with for five years, I’m the one he’s marrying (when he said he never would), I’m the one he’s moving out with (never did with her), and I’m the one he wants kids with (she went off the pill behind his back).

I’m sure the dress you got looks amazing on you. I wouldn’t worry about it. Who cares if you’re curvy..that just shows her that he loves you for YOU.

(I apologize if any of this sounds rude…In the five years I’ve been with my guy, I’ve learnt a lot. I know how hard it can be to see exes but I also see how frustrating it is from a guy’s view.)

Post # 82
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282 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@graygodess20:  I’m glad. I wouldn’t want you or anyone else to be with someone who said these things often.

Seriously girl make him PAY for that comment then! You are STUNNING. So do your hair and makeup and wear that dress and walk into that wedding with your head held high! Everyone here has said how pretty you are — I’d love to look like you! Men say stupid things all the time (mine does too!) and I’m sure he didn’t mean it..but honestly, revenge and make him pay! 

Post # 84
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@graygodess20:  Glad to hear you were able to talk it out!!

He does sound genuine for sure.

You now need to cool it w. the ex thing – the past is the past and you’re only driving yourself mad by worrying about her.

 

Post # 85
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Oh I’m glad to hear a happy update.  Things happen and people say things in the heat of the moment that don’t come out the way they’re meant.  Not that it is an excuse but glad he knows he better work on his heat of the moment responses moving forward.  I once told my Fiance “sometimes I wish I never met you” in the heat of the moment and I felt terrible about it. It’s not at all what i meant and it was so mean of me.  I think it happens to the best of us, but you better believe i haven’t nor will I ever say something in the heat of the moment without thinking about it first! Poor thing – this happened about a year ago and I still feel awful about it when I think about it.  

Post # 86
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Oh yeah and don’t worry about the ex anymore – girl you have the most beautiful face and hair!!!  There’s no way that chick can be hotter than you! 

Post # 87
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2017 - Seattle, WA

@MrsWBS:  Agreed!  You are so gorgeous!  OP – glad you talked things out with him.

Post # 89
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

haha i like your attitude! and yes ma’am to the shoes – they are more than deserved, he def owes you a pair!

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