(Closed) Why would he message me now?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’d cut contact.  He broke your heart…you don’t need friends like that.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I would also cut off contact… He is no good and not worth the trouble he might stir up.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Don’t bother reopening contact. SO not worth it.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

definitely cut off contact.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Do NOT carry on a conversation with this guy. No. Don’t do it.

Absolutely nothing good will come of it, and you do not owe it to him to indulge him in his nostalgia.

I knew I was finally ready to get married when the guy who had haunted me for YEARS poked me on Facebook and I immediately blocked him without a second thought. “Chatting” with exes is a slippery slope that there is no reason IN THE WORLD to walk on.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2012

For some reason exes seem to have an uncanny ability to detect when we get engaged or married and start sniffing around!

I wouldn’t talk to this guy. He’ll just stir up trouble.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I have to agree with PP. His motives are irrelevant… given what he did, I wouldn’t want anything to do with him.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Avoid like the plague. Nothing good comes out of ex’s re-entering the picture.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Youre only going to create a bigger problem for yourself. If youre truly over him let it go. Tell him thanks but no thanks, I have moved on and am in a happy place. After what he did to you you shouldnt even give him the time of day. Its not worth hurting your FI’s feelings if you truly care about your Fiance and hes the one you want to be with. If youre second guessing your engagement because of a message from your ex you shouldnt be engaged in the first place.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

there’s no reason to talk to him.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@LauraRose:  Whoa, that’s a bit of a jump. How does wondering why her ex is messaging her = second guessing her engagement?

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper

You have nothing to gain by opening the lines of communication. He hurt you, you’ve moved on and you don’t need him as anything right now: no friend, no acquaintance, no nothing. 

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

He’s probably lonely and wants someone to “fill the void”.  I would probably just ignore him, just as he did to you.  No need to start drama when you’re happily engaged!

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