Post # 1
- Wedding: November 2012 - Country Club
I dated this guy who cheated on me and I took him back, then he dumped me. We broke up 2 years ago, on HORRIBLE terms. I never thought I would hear from him again. Last year on his birthday I facebook messaged him “Happy Birthday” and never got a response. Since then we have both moved to different states. Last week he moved back to the city we used to live in and he messaged me after 2 years of no contact. When I asked why he would contact me after all this time he said that everything around there made him think of me. I just got engaged to another man. My question is, is this harmless? Is he just texting me to catch up and get on good terms again or is this a warning sign that he might have realized he made a mistake and I should cut contact with him now. My fiance knows that he messaged me and that I responded.
Post # 3
I’d cut contact. He broke your heart…you don’t need friends like that.
Post # 4
I would also cut off contact… He is no good and not worth the trouble he might stir up.
Post # 6
Don’t bother reopening contact. SO not worth it.
Post # 7
definitely cut off contact.
Post # 8
Do NOT carry on a conversation with this guy. No. Don’t do it.
Absolutely nothing good will come of it, and you do not owe it to him to indulge him in his nostalgia.
I knew I was finally ready to get married when the guy who had haunted me for YEARS poked me on Facebook and I immediately blocked him without a second thought. “Chatting” with exes is a slippery slope that there is no reason IN THE WORLD to walk on.
Post # 9
For some reason exes seem to have an uncanny ability to detect when we get engaged or married and start sniffing around!
I wouldn’t talk to this guy. He’ll just stir up trouble.
Post # 10
I have to agree with PP. His motives are irrelevant… given what he did, I wouldn’t want anything to do with him.
Post # 11
Avoid like the plague. Nothing good comes out of ex’s re-entering the picture.
Post # 12
Youre only going to create a bigger problem for yourself. If youre truly over him let it go. Tell him thanks but no thanks, I have moved on and am in a happy place. After what he did to you you shouldnt even give him the time of day. Its not worth hurting your FI’s feelings if you truly care about your Fiance and hes the one you want to be with. If youre second guessing your engagement because of a message from your ex you shouldnt be engaged in the first place.
Post # 13
there’s no reason to talk to him.
Post # 14
@LauraRose: Whoa, that’s a bit of a jump. How does wondering why her ex is messaging her = second guessing her engagement?
Post # 15
You have nothing to gain by opening the lines of communication. He hurt you, you’ve moved on and you don’t need him as anything right now: no friend, no acquaintance, no nothing.
Post # 16
He’s probably lonely and wants someone to “fill the void”. I would probably just ignore him, just as he did to you. No need to start drama when you’re happily engaged!