(Closed) Why you would invite yourself or RSVP without an invitation…Come on people!

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

thought you could use a giggle… and a hug 🙂

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

wow…just wow…

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

What the hell is wrong with people?? Did they grow up under a rock? Didn’t anyone teach them cooth? UGH UGH UG

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Yes girl, OMG, I am so tired of people inboxing me on fb saying that they WANT an invitation and where and when is the wedding AND they SAID they are coming without even bothering to ask. We have an inclusive venue so we need an EXACT number of people coming because if we go over 50 people, we are going to be charged extra. We’re already at inviting 70 people. We budgeted that we can go 20 people over but no more than that. And these are people inboxing me that I may have met once on Fiance side (and we’ve been together over 4 yrs) and my dad’s side of the family (none of them are invited, as far as they know its a DW). No I dont understand some people. The people that ARE invited dont even have to bother asking because they already know.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

well since you let her in, word is spreading. you should have said “I’m sorry but…”

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I say Just Say NO!!!  Actually talk to your Fiance to find out what’s going on first…but otherwise I would ask that person why they are sending the address ..and tell them that sorry ..it will be be a small wedding …yada yada yada.   tell them you haven’t even sent the invitations yet (for those that have RSVP’d). 

You can offer for people to go to the ceremony if you are comfortable about that..otherwise don’t feel the need to invite them to the reception.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

haha my FI’s grandpa’s ex wife’s sons did this same thing! Bought plane tickets to come see us…my Fiance didn’t even know their names!! People are so weird.  We had to flat out tell them no.  /awkward.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Some people just don’t get it.  But buying a plane ticket without so much as a save-the-date, that’s a bit excessive.

I’m having a no social media rule.  The only announcement I made on FB was that I was engaged.  I’m not putting any updates about finishing the invitations, dress shopping, or anything.  We picked our date last week and I’m not about to post that.  Hopefully, that will keep any rogue RSVPers out of the way.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

wow…just wow…

I am sorry to hear that.

That’s exactly why I am keep everything under wraps on FB.  They know we are getting married but we never mention when.  Only close ones know when.  And on our wedding site, I purposedly don’t mention location so they will only know when they get formal invitations.

Hopefully no self-invite people.  Keep my fingers crossed!

my mom has a long time friend whom I haven’t seen for 15+ years.  They rencently met up and she asked my mom if she can come to the wedding with her daughter (whom I don’t think I have met) because she wants to check out colleges in the States.  I was like WTH!?  (mom is gonna turn her down…but people are WEIRD!!!!)

For one, I would rather invite my mom’s closer friends first before her.  Then secondly, you didn’t really want to come to the wedding.  YOU HAD OTHER AGENDAS, LADY!

 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

i wonder if she played you and told you she’d bought a ticket before she actually did so you’d HAVE to invite her.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@TwinABee:  I did this too and Im not mentioning ANYTHING AT ALL about the wedding and Im still getting all this crap in my inbox. Its enough to make me delete my whole page… Well, almost enough.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Mrs. Meowerson:  That is something to consider… But I would have just flat out told her NO in the first place. I really dont care what people think of me. I cant afford to have everyone I want there so Im not going to have ANYONE I DONT want to be there. Thats my way of thinking.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

why would anyone not close to you WANT to go to your wedding?? 

WHat is wrong with people??

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

Make sure you seat her right next to the DJ, back in a corner somewhere.

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