(Closed) “Wide”?

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
1986 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Size 8 is not wide or “immense”.  How far away are you?  Is there any chance you could meet her where she is or maybe meet halfway and try on dresses?  It may just be the pictures?

Post # 4
2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It might be the way her computer is loading them. Sometimes, when I open pictures that are emailed, objects in them appear “wider”, and generally unflattering.

It could also be the lighting at the store.

Another thought: were the dresss being held by clips are anything? I’ve noticed that in person you can see the shape much better than how it translates in a picture.

No matter what, a dress looks so different in person that it does in a picture.

Go with your heart and your mom will see how beautiful (and not “wide”!) you look in person.


Post # 5
610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@PinkPinstripes: Very good point about the pictures loading a little wonky.

Would it be possible to take a short video clip of yourself in the dress so Mom can see how it moves.  It may give her a different perspective from a still shot.

Post # 6
338 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Could it possibly be jealousy? That you went with your Future Mother-In-Law & a Bridesmaid or Best Man but not with her? That’s one scenario that popped into my head, that maybe she’s just feeling a little jealous so she kind of put those dresses down, because she wasn’t the 1 to go dress shopping with you?  Do you live close enough (within a couple hours?) to each other that maybe she thought if she didn’t like either of your dresses that you might just go dress shopping with her to look for other dresses?  

Just a possibility that I’m throwing out there.. I obviously don’t know your mom, so don’t know if this is in character or not (if she tends to maybe be a little snarky every once in a while, or if it’s the opposite & she was really understanding of you dress shopping with Future Mother-In-Law and not her.)  Just a thought!  Any chance your mom might be able to come out there and see the dresses in person? Or that you could go out to where she lives, if any bridal salons carry those dresses? If not, I think the video might be your next best bet to give a different view/perspective!

Post # 7
4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

was the sample too small? also, if you have wide shoulders, strapless dresses aren’t always flattering — maybe that was part of what she saw?

i think taking a video for her is a great idea!

Post # 8
457 posts
Helper bee

Sometimes pictures just suck. I remember when I went dress shopping, I fell in LOVE with this dress, I bought it on the spot, my mom and friends loved it, they took pictures, OMG as soon as I saw the pics I freaked, I looked “wide” and it did not flatter me at all. Everyone disagreed but I just couldn’t get passed it, I was so upset, I ended up losing my deposit but I didn’t care, I went in search of another dress and wasn’t as quick to take the plunge this time. THough I have to say every dress ( even the one I did end up going with) I hateddddddd the way I looked in the pictures, I was stressed until the day of my fitting because I kept going back to the pictures and hating how I looked, well the day of my fitting I fell in love with the dress all over again and the day of the wedding with the PROFESSIONAL PICS, it looked stunning.

So my point is, pictures can be bad if the lighting is off, and most of the dresses are samples and they are trying to make them fit you so that really distorts it as well. I would say maybe try taking more pics and maybe with a better camera. And I also think brides and MOB and whoever else has certain thoughts and ideas of how they think a dress is going to look or what they think is the perfect dress for you so when someone sees you in something different it’s hard for them to see past what they think at times.

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