(Closed) Wifely Duties

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 47
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

DH and I both telecommute, 40+ hours a week. I do most of the cooking but he does most of the laundry so that’s a fair trade. We both hate cleaning and yard work so we hired a maid and a neighbor kid to come take care of the grass. 

Post # 48
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

My husband does 99% of the cooking. Whoever cooks doesn’t do the dishes. We do laundry together. I clean more than he does. He’ll sweep on Saturdays, whereas I’ll sweep all throughout the week. I don’t think I’ve seen him dust yet, lol. 

Post # 49
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 1969

My husband and I equally share household duties. 

If he expects you to cook, do laundry, wash dishes, then he better be mowing the lawn, scrubbing the toilets, and fixing the car. It doesn’t matter how you divide chores, just as long as both are contributing

Post # 50
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@busybride215:  If he wants a 1950’s wife then he should be a 1950’s husband and work while you stay home.  Screw that double standard.

 

We both work about the same, but my hours are unpredicatable.  I’d say we clean equally, but do different tasks.  He’s on outside chores and “gross” stuff like kitty litters and bathroom and trash/recycling/compostables.  I do more dishes, vacuuming, dusting.  He cooks almost everything we eat, I clean up.  We both do laundry.  Any time I ask for more help, he’s happy to (like if we’re having company over or something)

Post # 51
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@julies1949:  +1

When he worked and I was finishing my degree, I did the chores. Now that I’m working full time and he’s in school full time, we share responsibilities.

Post # 52
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Responsibility is fluid in our house, I’m a student so I’m not “in classes” as many hours as he’s at work, but I do have a lot of time dedicated to studying and he works 1 1/2 hours aways from home.  So it really depends on the day- whose tired/energetic, who has an earlier start time or longer day, if one isn’t feeling well, etc.  For us, its what works and never builds resentment based on whats not getting done.  

Post # 53
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I do 99% of the housework, however I work part time and DH works full time and weekends. I do the cleaning, laundry, cooking, and take the trash out.  The only thing I ask DH to do is take the trash out to the curb once a week (and I usually need to remind him) and clean up after the dog. She’s a puppy so she’s being potty trained, I’ll clean the mess when Dh isn’t home, but if theres a mess while he’s here, he cleans it and picks up the poop from the yard.

If I worked full time, we would split everything 50/50. Both DH and I want me to be a Stay-At-Home Wife, so I only work part time.

Post # 54
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I do all the house shopping, organizing, bill paying, errand running, cooking and the majority of kitchen cleaning, picking up, dusting and vacuuming.  FI does the dishes, laundry, trash and bathroom.

Post # 55
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

If both people work then both should help with upkeep of the home. If he wants to have a 1950s attitude about it, ask when you get to be a SAHM!

Post # 56
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m probably going to be working longer hours and maybe harder work than he is, so I hope he’ll do more of the chores if that’s the case.  Although, I do most of the work now while we’re both students even though his major is much less labor-intensive than mine is.

Post # 57
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I do all of the cooking and cleaning.  Our shared chores are the shopping (we normally go together) and taking care of the dog.

Post # 58
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

he does the heavy lifting cleaning, like all of the dishes, vacuuming, and he does his laundry. I do most of the organizing jobs

Post # 59
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

he cooks and cleans the kitchen, I do laundry and handle everything else.

Post # 60
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I work 20 hours now (it was more like 38 but my hours got cut back) and he works a minimum of 38 hours, but it’s not unusual for him to work 70+ some weeks.

I do all inside chores (cooking, cleaning, laundry, dishes) and he does all outside chores (taking out the trash, sweeping the garage, mowing the lawn).

Speaking of a maid though, we just got an IRoomba! I freaking love that thing, vacuuming was my most hated chore =D

Post # 61
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We split the chores 50/50 and if for some reason isn’t 50/50 its becasue one of us works late all the time, school or studying, or something pressing. Neither one of us is allowed to be lazy and not carry weight. I married a partner, therefore that’s what I expect. Gender roles can kiss my ass.

 

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