(Closed) Wild Groomsmen

posted 7 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Well, I’m in the mindset of that you get what you get when you pick your wedding parties. Pregnant, tattoo’d, loud, green dreadlocks, you have to accept people as they are or else you shouldn’t have invited them in the first place.

That being said, workboots and cutoffs? How about no. If he’s really your fiance’s good friend he can suck it up and wear a suit for a few hours.

Has he talked to them aout this? Seems he’d be more likely to get through to them than you.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I would have your Fiance take responsibility for communicating preferences, as the Groomsmen is less likely to give him s*** for having, oh, perfectly reasonable expectations than he is you.

I’d also get on the whole bachelor arty thing with a quickness.  Sounds like Groomsmen Crazy might have specific ideas about what that night entails and you might want to be extra clear with Fiance about what you are and aren’t comfortable with.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

@KatyElle:  True, but how often do men think of these things?  In my experience, our brawny friends usually think a wedding can be planned in about a week and for less than $100.00.  Logistics are not usually at the forefront of their minds.  As nearly as I can tell they base their decisions on: blood, beer and shared memories involving fire, bodily secretions or some combination thereof.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@teaadntoast: I don’t really think you’re giving them enough credit 😉 My husband is as manly as they come and he would expect his friends to behave appropriately at our wedding. And if his friend was making me out to be a Bridezilla for wanting everyone to look nice at an event that is costing us thousands of dollars, he would have no problem saying something.

 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

@KatyElle: Oh, I agree completely.  I just meant that OP didn’t pick the guy, so her obligation to accept his unique, special snowflakeness in  the spirit of “come as you are” is less than if the unreasonable attendant were a bridesmaid.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@teaadntoast: I think you’re not getting my point. I was just saying that presumably this is his personality all the time, so no one should be shocked if he now wants to wear workboots to a formal event, as everyone knew he was like this before he was asked to participate. This should not be the OP’s problem, hence my suggestion that it should be her fiance who is dealing with this and not her.

Anyhoo, good luck! Hopefully he will be a good friend to your fiance and repsect both your wishes. Good luck with the rest of your planning!

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