(Closed) Will anyone else be the 1st from your “group” to TTC?

posted 6 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m not TTC, but I just wanted to tell you that the years when I was 25 and 26 I knew SO many people having their first babies (mainly the couples who’d been married for a couple of years like you). It was like an explosion. So I’m sure you’re not alone or too young (you’d probably be 25 by the time the baby is born).

Of my friends who did have babies, it was a bit crazy at first because none of the rest of us knew anything about babies and it was hard to relate. Now, I still see these friends often, but they’ve made tons of other mommy friends so that they have people to commiserate with.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I probably will, but that’s because we’re the first to be married. We’re not TTC for probably a few years, but they’ll probably do the same unless they don’t get married til 30 (I know some men who would be killed in their sleep if that’s the case), but then we’ll have started trying already. We’re pretty young (24), so no real rush on that. ๐Ÿ™‚ Plus, we don’t actually like kids, so we’re gonna wait for the fever to hit us. Lol.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I won’t be the first, but I do wish I had more people that were TTC around me. My bestie had her 1st last year and my sisters are older and pretty much done. The rest of my friends are engaged or in serious relationships, but won’t be having kids for a while. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We are the first in our group to TTC. The one hard thing is although you can chose when to start so much of the process you can’t control. I think it might be hard to TTC with other because then you will always be comparing to the other couples, who had success first, etc…. We ultimately decided when we started TTC we wanted to do it at our pace and not tell anyone that way there wasn’t any pressure, and it wasn’t always the topic of conversation, especially if that month didn’t go well. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Yes, within our close group of friends we’re the first to have a baby.

You shouldn’t base your decision on what your friends are feeling. Just you and your husband!

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Yes and no. We have friends who live in other states that we only see every few years (but keep up with on FB) who are already parents. They’re mostly old high school/college friends. Actually, one such friend is having a little boy (their second) about two weeks after us. 

However we’re the first within our closer group of friends that we see on a regular basis to have a kid. All the rest are over the moon about it, too, especially since they’re getting to the age where some of them are starting to want/think about wanting kids (but are holding off for various reasons). They get to “have a baby” through us. 

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

We are the opposite. All of our friends  (except one great friend that isn’t married yet) have babies, are pregnant, or are trying. So we are behind. We are starting next month. I so wish that someone would be pregnant with me but at least I have plenty of friends to ask pregnancy questions o.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We’ll most likely be the first to TTC, but we certainly won’t be the first to succeed if you get my drift lol ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I probably will be, since I’m the first in my circle of friends to get married. I wonder how this will affect my friendships. I feel like getting married is already making it hard for me to relate to my single friends who want to party all the time. Being a parent will make it even harder.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

O defiently were the first to get married, and will defiently be the first to have a baby we will be TTC in August after the wedding. All of our friends would rather waste their money on toys and going out, we’d rather spend that money on a family. Hoping to find a nice group of young moms when the time comes.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We would be the second out of my group of girls – and the second out of his group of friends too. My best friend is preggo with her second – and she is begging us to have a little one! The funny thing is, we have been together longer than all of our friends so they think it’s weird that we weren’t the first. I always wanted to wait for 2 years after getting married to talk about babies – and this July will be 2 years ๐Ÿ˜‰

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