(Closed) Will anyone else be the 1st from your “group” to TTC?

posted 10 years ago in TTC
Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

It’s tough to say.  When you have been out of college as long as I have and lived in different cities, your “group of friends” changes.  One of my girl’s night girls had her kids first when we were all 26, but none of the rest of us have started.  We want to TTC when I am 31, which means I will be after her, but my current set of close girl friends who live in the same city as me we will be first.  I’m still in touch with my other friend and she is excited we might have kids soon, and I think the others will be starting soon as well.

Honestly, she made a lot of friends from mom groups.  So she had her previous non kid friends, and friends with kids.

Post # 18
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552 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

we’re probably going to be leading the pack, but i think that most of my friends will be within a year or so. i didn’t want to be first, but it’s working out that way. still hoping that one of my gfs will sneak in some news before we do!

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

DH and I were the first to get married, but one of my best friends was the first to have a baby. Her now two year old was a wonderful, happy surprise but I know it was a little rough while she was pregnant, none of our other friends had kids and I know she felt kind of isolated. They also weren’t big “kid” people but adore their own, and eventually became pretty fond of other kids too. She doesn’t have a “mom” group or baby friends, though many new mom’s choose to find a community of people in a similar place to support them, but that’s not really her style so I don’t think it’s bothered her. DH and I will probably be TTC #1 when she had her now DH are about ready to try for #2.

Post # 20
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Honey bee

Actually, I think we will be the first couple from our group to actually get married before having a kid, haha.  A lot of people have kids, but we don’t since we decided to wait and get a house/married/careers first. 

Post # 21
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5592 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m 28 and my best girlfriends are mostly still into school/work right now so I’m the first. We’re also first potential grandkid on both sides and first great grandkid in all but the cousins in my dad’s side so were REALLY all alone in the baby-ness. 

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m quite the opposite– it seems like everyone around me is having babies! But it makes sense– there was a huge wave of weddings, which we were towards the end of, so now that the weddings are petering out, the babies are seriously kicking up. Of our closest friends, the first one is due in June and then I think we will be having new babies born every other month for a while. It’s insane how many pregnant people I know right now. 

I’m also 31, as are many of my friends, so it’s like, ok, we finished school, worked, got married, got some money saved up… baby time! I’m finish up the pill next week, then start TTC in the fall.

Post # 23
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524 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

yes! we will be 24 when we get married this summer. none of our friends are married or have kids, and a lot of them are still students. i have extreme baby fever and no one gets it! haha

Post # 24
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Worker bee

I’m 29 and we’re the first amongst my close group of girlfriends. Maybe it’s the big city effect, but most people I know are single, dating or married – only a handful have kids!

Post # 25
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693 posts
Busy bee

no it seems like all my friends have kids… we are like the last ones 🙁

Post # 26
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1197 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

we’re the first…hubby has college friends with kids but I def do not. In fact, only 2 of my close friends are even married. I didn’t even tell any of them that we were TTC either…I felt like it was solely me & my DH’s decision and situation and I didn’t feel the need to tell them or get anybody else’s input but my husbands:) (not that they wouldnt be super happy-but I just didnt want to “take that” privacy away from me & DH)

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We’re sort of torn from both directions. All of my friends are a few years older and already married or will be married within an 8 month range of us. One’s already had a child, one’s been having some TTC issues, and another is always teasing me to hurry up so we can TTC together (ahha, noooo!). 

Mr.ND’s friends, on the other hand, are at least a few years younger than us, and we’re the first in that crew to get married. We want at least a year to just enjoy being married, get our own place, adjust, etc, before we revisit TTC. I feel like he’s more drawn to his guys’ timelines while I’m drawn to my girlfriends’, so meeting in the middle will sort of keep us a bit ‘off’ from our friends. But it’ll be ok. I’ll have plenty of babies to snuggle until it’s our turn, and lots of great moms to get info from, while still having a whole group of people that enjoy playing with the baby and then giving him/her back. LOL. Eventually we’ll get to be the ‘experienced’ friends when his friends have questions. 

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Not sure, but probably! DH and I have baby fever and were planning to start TTC in the fall. However, we decided to up our home budget and get a new construction place (so excited!!!!) and now we’re going to have to wait until next spring (not as excited, lol). Based on talking to some of our other friends who are married/in committed relationships, we’ll be the first, but now that we’re waiting another year or so there’s no guarantee! Many of our friends aren’t married/in committed relationships so we’ll definitely be before them!

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