- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
I’ve been having quite a bit of family drama making wedding planning a lot less pleasant than what I was hoping for.
It comes down to – we don’t want to pay $25 000 to have a wedding forcing people together that can’t behave themselves etc.
To sum it up – my dad married my mom’s best friend and she never got over it. And my almost mother in law is what horror films are made of.
Lots of people are telling me to elope but I can’t be around anyone with kids and not feel guilty or worried about telling my mom that something else went wrong in her life – she missed her only daughters wedding… it’s just not me. But if she comes, my dad has to come and so forth… so only our parents and my bridesmaid will now be invited.
We are getting married in Bali, we live in Australia and my dad lives in Ghana, mom, bridesmaid and almost mother in law in South Africa so as it is things are a bit complicated.
So the solution/itinerary I’ve come up with now is as follows:
1. We still have a church wedding at 3 in the afternoon and being that we intend to pay for the church anyway anyone can come (there won’t be too much time for people to irritate each other there too).
2. We then have small snacks and celebration drinks standing around and chatting a bit while photos are being taken of the bridal couple with everyone there.
3. Bridal couple gets picked up by a taxi and with the photographer drive off to great places that will make super photographs.
4. Bridal couple have a romantic dinner together alone.
5. We then meet up with everyone who attended the wedding for lunch the next day in a nice restaurant (saving costs too – I can also have it that each couple sits in their own 2 seater bali hut so they don’t have to talk too much to eachother and we can just go around and join them now and then).
So my question is:
1. Is this too weird? We aren’t aiming for a traditional wedding anyway (no dancing, no flowergirls, no speeches etc).
2. Is having a lunch the day after insulting? Or saying goodbye so soon after the wedding?
3. Think it is good enough for people who made an effort to come all the way to Bali? (I’m not forcing anyone to come). They’ve all actually threatened numerous times that they won’t come to the wedding so really it will save me a lot of heartache this way.
Please share your thoughts and opinions or any insights from experiences x