(Closed) Will be delivering at "Baby Friendly Hospital" – and Freaking out

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 31
2492 posts
Buzzing bee

I haven’t given birth, but my sister and 2 of my cousins are nurses, and I have a lot of nieces and nephews.

Would it be possible to hire something like an ‘after delivery doula’ to be around and help advocate for you, so you don’t have to advocate for yourself while recovering from a C-section?

Post # 32
1866 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

My hospital technically had a nursery, but it was not staffed.  They told us they only really used it for circumcisions or something like that.  I had to be rushed to an operating room to remove my retained placenta after I delivered.  They brought my baby to the special care nursery to be “babysat” by the nurses there until I woke back up. My husband was there but I guess they didn’t want to leave him alone with the baby while I was in surgery?  No idea.  But I guess the main point is, I am pretty sure that they will make sure your baby is supervised, even if there is no nursery.

Post # 33
3225 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I think taking the baby away from mom to be in a nursery is an American thing? I don’t believe it is nearly as common – or done at all maybe – in other countries. The hospital where I’ll deliver is room in, with no nursery available, and I think it’s a good thing. Obviously with a C section you’ll have a longer recovery, but I was reading a thread where Bees said they got delivered a few hours after delivery in some circumstances – I assume all those mothers just go home and take care of their babies 24/7, without even nurses, etc. to check in on them? The exhaustion/no sleep is to be expected I think.

I wouldn’t worry about the formula/pacifier, if you bring them or your baby needs formula, the hospital isn’t going to deny it. 

Post # 34
692 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I delivered at one and it was okay.  Not great, but okay.  I did want to Boyfriend or Best Friend and I appreciated the help they had available.  I sent baby to the nursery twice, once on our first night (she was born at 2pm via c-section), second time was day 3 b/c the percoset made me sick.  The nurses gave me flak but reluctantly agreed and I got some rest.  Pacifiers and formula were allowed but you had to bring them (they had formula if you couldn’t Boyfriend or Best Friend for whatever reason, but if you just choose to use formula you need to supply it).  The LC also showed me how to pump before I left, and provided me with a nipple shield.

Post # 35
4675 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

solnishko1186 :  I only read the first page of comments, but the only concern I would have is over the no formula thing.  My LO and I had a lot of problems nursing, and I had to pump right away to feed him.  I did well at first, but after the first day or so, I barely produced anything until my milk came in around 5 days PP. I hated it, but I rather my baby was fed then get nothing. Even though they say newborns don’t need much, I would rather have something to feed him or her to hold them over than give them barely anything for the first few days.   

Post # 36
275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I delievered at a Boyfriend or Best Friend hospital and it was exactly as I’d hoped and expected. They didn’t have a nursery there and no one offered to take the baby away for the night or even for a couple hours; I wouldn’t have wanted them to. I wanted to bond with my baby and not worry about her safety, even if it meant giving up some much-needed sleep. 

My hospital had a no-formula policy which is reinforced verbally at every opportunity, as well as on their website and in hand-outs. They do not supply formula and will not teach you how to prepare it and feed it to the baby. My understanding is that this policy is common throughout all the hospitals in my city. I didn’t struggle with breast-feeding, but I had a friend who had a miserable experience due to her breast-milk never coming in and the hospital refusing to help her with the formula (I believe they did offer her donor milk). 

If you’re concerned, I’d follow the advice above and hire a doula to help with the early care for a few days.

Post # 37
3113 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

We delivered at a baby friendly hospital. Was it hard not sleeping those first nights? Yes, but it’s a  month later and I’m still not sleeping, you won’t have a nursery to put the babies in when you get home either and there’s a lot of evidence to support how important it is for baby’s health to stay with mom for the first 24 hours. Darling Husband stayed with me the whole time and we took turns trying to get sleep, but nurses came in almost every hour anyway so it was pointless. I’m sure if there are any major complications and you are unable to care for your babies the nurses will take them to nursery or NICU for the time being if you don’t have a spouse or family member to help. As for breastfeeding vs. formula, your milk is unlikely to even come in before you leave the hospital so the chances of needing to supplement with formula are slim. My LO had a very hard time latching in hospital and the nurses helped me hand express colostrum and spoon feed it to her. Once we were home we were faced with supplementing with formula, something we are still doing, but it wasn’t a concern in hospital. These practices are truthfully best for babies! 

Post # 39
3912 posts
Honey bee

I don’t think baby friendly is a bad thing, and quite honestly, I wouldn’t let the nurses have my son so never needed the nursery. For me, and I had a 37 hour labor and c section too, the adrenaline from birth and having my son there was so high that not sleeping much was fine. I also had to feed my son around the clock so the longest a nurse could even take him was an hour anyway.

What does not sound fine to me is their rules on formula. My son was very tiny and I had really bad edema after birth, so we had latch issues. I really wanted to breastfeed so I did, but I also had to supplement and that decision was made long before a doctor was around. I personally would bring formula and pacifiers and whatever the hell else you plan on using, and if anyone dared to stop me I would unleash my mom wrath. If that’s what you choose to do, that is your right as the parent, and they can suck it. 

P.S. if you do plan to formula feed, bring the ready to feed kind, not the powder. Powder is dangerous to newborns and my hospital would not allow it for very good reason. Sometimes they are right 😉

Post # 40
8463 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

solnishko1186 :  I’m sorry you’re still so anxious about this, but I think if certain things about the delivery and postpartum time were THAT important you should have done your research while you still had time to switch hospitals. Choosing a hospital that has a clear policy and then expecting them to change it for you isn’t fair. For me, I was not willing to risk sharing a postpartum room which wouldn’t have allowed my husband to stay overnight with me so I looked into area hospitals as soon as I got pregnant and actually changed practices in order to go to the hospital that fits my personal needs and wants (i.e. a baby friendly hospital that encourages dad to stay over each night).  

Post # 41
94 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I unknowingly gave birth at a very similar hospital. I loved the rooming in– in my case, the nursing support wasn’t very good, but if they try there, that’s great! Maybe you can have your husband run out and grab some formula if you do decide to go that way? Also, definitely bring a pacifier for the babies… our hospital didn’t give them out either, and I had to ask friends to bring us some.

Post # 42
9632 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

solnishko1186 :  I get you’re anxious about this, but I really think you’re going overboard. The nurses are not going to leave you there alone to smother your babies. That’s ridiculous. Our baby friendly hospital had a rule that you had to be able to get out of bed in order to be left alone with the baby, otherwise they would take the baby for a while. Bedsharing was not allowed, and the nurses would come and check on you all the time. They are not out to get you.

Chances are you are not going to want to send your newborn babies away anyway, trust me.

Post # 43
4998 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My hospital only does rooming in, as do most of the hospitals here. I know they strongly recommend breast feeding too, but no hospital will let babies starve if mom can’t breast feed. They have a level 3 NICU which was what I really cared about, so I’m good with it! I would try not to worry too much about it, I bet it won’t be a big deal!

Post # 44
3008 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

solnishko1186 :  I also think you are going overboard with your worry about this. I planned to deliver at a birthing center but ending up having to transfer to the (baby-friendly) hospital. Both hospitals in the area are baby-friendly. My newborn was very sleepy that first night but I was so high from birth that I just did some little cat naps anyway, it was fine. However, I understand that a C-section would be completely different. My SIL stayed in the hospital for 4 days. She didn’t have quite enough colostrom and her milk did not come in until she went home so the nurses helped her give the baby a little formula through a tube at her breast. They also took the baby to the nurses station for 2 hours to give her a chance to nap. Not a big deal. Another friend who had a C-section at 36 weeks did the same with her baby when his blood sugar was too low and not responding well enough to her colostrom. Baby-friendly means they will not give formula or pacifiers without the mom’s knowledge or consent. If someone had taken my baby away to a nursery and given him a bottle of formula and a pacifier I would have been absolutely livid. However, no one will stop you from doing what you like with your babies- they are YOUR children and you can make your own decisions for them. No one would allow you to accidentally smother them- the nurses are there to care for YOU as well as the babies. You could always hire a night nurse to assist you until you go home, but I seriously think that would be totally overboard- it would be like hiring an extra doctor to come with you to the hospital, in my opinion. Huge congrats on your twins and best of luck!

ETA: Do you want to breastfeed at all or do you plan to give formula right away? If so, just bring some to the hospital with you- problem solved. I can’t imagine the hospital staff ripping the bottle out of the baby’s mouth and forcing you to breastfeed, afterall….

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