Post # 1
So, it always seems as though trying to have a baby is easy and just happens when planned. My fiance and I are getting married in June, but planning on starting to try shortly after. i am concerned that we will try and it will take a long time or something. I have normal periods, my mom is extremely fertile, Haha..Ugh. How may times did you try before it was successful. I am a teacher, so we are trying to plan it so that I would be due later in the school year.
Post # 4
@Amsy28: Check out the Nesting-TTC- thread for more responses, support and questions answered. Also the “pre-TTC” thread and the stickies on top!
See you there!
Post # 5
We took 19 cycles and medical intervention to get pregnant. if you have no obvious indications that it will be difficult, and you haven’t even tried yet… I hate to tell people to relax, but… Yeah…
Even knowing how much trouble we’d have in retrospect I wouldn’t give up those first few months of just keeping it fun and spontaneous and romantic.
Post # 6
You never know until you try! Don’t start stressing about fertility problems before you even start TTC. Try to enjoy those first few months, and then consider taking additional steps, like charting, if you don’t get pregnant quickly.
Post # 7
I agree that you can’t know until you try. I never in a million years expected to have the kind of journey that I have so far. My husband and I have been ttc for #1 for nearly 3 years and in the past 1.5 years have had 6 miscarriages. Many other people get pregnant right away or nearly right away. So I guess I agree with SapphireSun – don’t borrow trouble, but it also doesn’t hurt to be aware that things don’t always go as planned.
Post # 8
86% of healthy couples will get pregnant in the first year. The average is 6 months or so. You will find plenty of people who became pregnant in the first try or have been trying for years, everyone’s story is different and you can’t worry yet! Just focus on getting on prenatals and being healthy!
Post # 9
Like others have said, you really don’t know until you try. It took my mom 2 years to conceive me, and she had to have surgery for her endometriosis before she could conceive. On the other hand, I got pregnant after 3 months off the pill.
Some women get lucky on the first try, and for others it takes longer. But I wouldn’t worry about it until you have something to worry about, if that makes sense.
Post # 10
I, like you, had some (irrational) fears that something would be wrong with me and I wouldn’t be able to get pregnant. I even thought my fears were confirmed when I started TTC and had a short luteal phase, but on 3rd cycle off the pill I got pregnant. If you have no reason to suspect that you have any infertility problems, then you probably don’t. All you can do is try and hope for the best. If you want to make your “trying” more effective, though, I highly recommend the sperm meets egg plan. You can read about it here:
Also, I highly recommend charting and buying and reading the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility. It was a lifesaver and I truly think that by being so in-tune with my fertility signs and using all the tools I could (charting, ovulation predictor tests, LOTS of sex focused around the fertile window) it helped me to get pregnant faster.
One more thing: if you do do the Sperm Meets Egg Plan, it requires A LOT of sex…some people are just fine with this. I, on the other hand, would get extremely sore doing it that many times without any lube and regular lube should be off-limits while TTC, so I bought some Pre-Seed lubricant and that was a lifesaver too!
Last of all, good luck! 🙂
Post # 11
I agree with everyone else that you never know until you try! I was also really concerned that we’d have problems and thus far those fears have been grounded. Both our families are super fertile, we were each conceived on the first try, and yet here we are, on our 7th cycle and no luck yet! I went off BCP in 2010 to regulate my body, have been tracking my cycles and have had regular periods since then with the exception of 3 long cycles. Hopefully we’ll get lucky soon! I know they say it takes the average couple 6 months to conceive, but I totally thought we’d be pregnant by now.
Post # 12
You really can’t tell how long it’s going to take and I totally get that the media and other people make it seem like it’s super easy, like “snap your fingers and voila!” easy. It wasn’t until medical professionals assured me that it takes 4-6 months and hearing from other women that suffer MC that it really hit home for me that it’s not easy.
That said, it’s not always a lengthy, challenging process for everyone either and no, you don’t have to be a fertile, young teenage girl either. I definitely recommend getting your body in tip-top shape so at least you are working with all the advantages you could possibly have. This includes avoiding caffeine (it’s a mixed bag as to how much is safe, but some medical professionals told me cold turkey is preferred), making sure you get enough sleep, healthy weight, taking prenatals (pre-PG), etc. Charting definitely helps. If you don’t want to do all that, at least get one of those freebie phone apps (with good reviews) so you can track AF and they will give you a general window of when you most likely ovulate so you at least you can increase the odds. You can also meet with your GP/GYN to have a pre-conception appointment to make sure your bloodwork looks good and you are up-to-date on vaccines. I wouldn’t stress too much about getting it done this summer; if it’s meant to be, it’s meant to be.
I did all of this and we got our BFP after two months of trying.
Post # 13
Our OBGYN suggested using ovulation kit, clear blue. We started TTC last October, went for it on ovulation day 1, found out preggers in November. Worked for us. Good luck and baby dust your way. See link below for Clear Bllue, there’s 7 packs, lower price and 20 packs for $35.