(Closed) Will family members get over it if they're not invited?

posted 7 years ago in Family
  • poll: Will family members get over not being invited?

    Sure! They're adults and they'll understand.

    Eventually, but it may take some time.


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  • Post # 32
    36 posts
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I am going through a similar thing – my mother has 8 siblings and 2 of her sisters had a massive falling out with her a couple of years ago. Fault is with all 3 but only my mother has apologized (a number of times) and they haven’t. One of the sisters has sort of tried to patch things up but not properly and has shown my mother a lack of respect. 

    On my dad’s side I have an uncle that lived very close by when i was growing up but he has had affairs on my aunty for the past 30 odd years. I don’t like how he treats marriage. 

    We are paying for the wedding so I have made the decision to only invite one set of aunties/uncles from each side and 1 cousin (I have about 12 cousins). My uncle that had the affiars was surprised but too bad. I’ll hasten to add he drinks too much, is a homophobic and racist idiot and I don’t need that attitude on our wedding day. I haven’t invited the aunty who sort of talks to my mother, but I have invited her daughter (my cousin). Apparantly all hell broke loose when my aunty found out. 

    Too bad. 

    Invite who you want. Particularly if you are paying the bill. I have grown a thick skin over offending people. I want people who add to my day and cherish not just me and my groom, but my parents as well. 


    Post # 33
    442 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013 - Tybee Island, GA

    i invited my mom and 3out of 5 of her sisters (my aunts). Simply because they are out of state, and i rarely even see them every 2 years… they are upset they arent invited, and have made comments on my shower pics one of my aunts posted on FB being a little childish about it… But simply because if i invite them i have to invite their children (my cousins) and they are ALL married and have kids , so i have to invite their families as well… im having a small wedding, and inviting them would defeat my purpose. and cause me to pay another $2k-3k that just simply not in my budget. They arent too happy about it, but i’ve just brushed it off. I rarely speak to them anyways… I just figure they need to be adults and get over it with time. needless to say i did send them an email to state why i didnt invite them, and one of my aunts acted okay with it, but she talked about it to my other aunt who is invited. lol. the way i see it is its my wedding, not a family reunion with folks i rarely see or even talk to. They dont even know my FI’s name… so thats where i am. Hopefully they’ll grow up and get over it. unless they want to pay the extra $$$ it would cost to invite them. I FEEL YOUR PAIN! Good Luck Bee!


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