Post # 1
I put the following wording at the bottom of our program, but we are now questioning if guests will find this rude:
There is an icon that says no photos please and then next to it this wording:
We are so honored that you want to capture these special moments, but we would much rather see your smiling faces; so, please refrain from taking photos during the ceremony. Professional photographers are on hand to capture all the special moments.
We also plan on our officiant saying the following, as a part of her welcome:
I invite you to be truly present at this special time. Please, turn off your cell phones and put down your cameras. The photographer will capture how this moment looks — I encourage you all to capture how it feels with your hearts, without the distraction of technology.
What are your thoughts? Will people be offended by this?
Post # 2
- Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL
I think that is perfect. My Mother-In-Law was ALL up in our business trying to get pictures and Brother-In-Law had to yell at her and said “Mom, they paid people money for that so get out of the way!”
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2015 - camp in new hampshire
DO IT! It’s so annoying to have everyone with their cell phones out! My friend jut did this at her wedding, basically the same way and it was totally fine. I’m going to do it at my wedding next year too.
Post # 4
Meggo79: i think it’s perfect! mr. h and i just discussed this yesterday in our planning talk…reception guest pics are totally fine in my book, it’s a party. but during the ceremony, just stop and be in the moment
Post # 5
I’m personally struggling with this as well. I don’t think it is rude, but I would change your wording a bit and add that you will be more than happy to share your professional photos when they come in that way people know they will have access to photos from the ceremony as well and are more likely to not use their cameras while they’re there. If/when I do this, I plan on blaming the officiant and venue (I know, I know, bad, but I don’t want poeple to be mad at me so I’m moving the blame! Muahahaha! Come get me wedding police! Also Fiance absolutely despises the idea of using the phrase “unplugged wedding” for some reason).
I’ve added and deleted this from our wedding website probably 1000 times in the past few months (it was never actually up but I’m planning a big “update” when invitations go out so people first know details from the invitations rather than the other way around, so this was on my planned update list).
Every day I change my mind about whether or not this is a good thing to do so I’m commenting to follow!
Post # 6
I’ve been to a few weddings where they said no photos but people took them on their phones on the DL anyway, don’t let it wind you up if people do. Some of my favourite photos from our wedding the guests captured rather than the photographer! Our official pics were amazing but the guests got some great ones too! X
Post # 7
Meggo79: I think it’s completely reasonable. I really like the wording on the program and would suggest that your officiant say something similar. Some people don’t mind the concept of an unplugged ceremony but don’t appreciate someone telling them they need to be present.
Overall, there are always people who might be offended, but really, it’s OK. You might also want to tell people that the professional pictures will be available to them after the wedding as well, since some people take pictures because they want to remember and aren’t sure they’ll ever see the pro pictures – not everyone shares them.
Post # 8
Meggo79: An unplugged wedding is more than fine. I think people should sit down and listen to the ceremony rather than take pictures with camera phones and ipads. There is nothing worse than ceremony photos with all the guests faces being blocked by cameras……
Do not be surprised if there are a few that do not listen…. some people really cannot help themselves………
Post # 9
Our church actually requires an unplugged wedding (except for the professional photographer) mostly because of people viewing the ceremony through a iPad (seriously, who the heck takes pictures with those?) and uncle faux-tographers getting out in the aisle and climbing on pews.
It was a relief that it was church policy so I didn’t have to be the bad guy. The service was amazing and when I turned to face the congregation after kissing my new husband, everyone’s face was smiling up at me and I will never forget that moment! Nobody was buried in a phone! Nobody was worried about getting the perfect shot! I’ll share what the photographers took with everyone obviously.
Post # 10
It’s perfect, definitely do it!
A few of my favorite wedding photos were ruined by my uncle who was up walking around during the entire ceremony taking pictures like he was our photographer!! Luckily my mom is a whiz at photoshop and took him out of my favorite ruined photo. And I mean literally ruined: there was just a field in the background of my husband and I kissing as we’re leaving the ceremony, and he’s standing in the background next to my ear! At my cousins wedding I made sure to talk to him and his wife about not doing the same.
Post # 11
Meggo79: We had something to the same effect at the begining of our ceremony and got no push back for. Its actually something I try to consiously be aware of in my daily life now. We spend so much time trying to get the perfect photo of everythign we are doing for facebook, instagram, or whatever that we tend to neglect paying attention to what is actually happening in front of us.
Post # 12
- Wedding: March 2015 - On a Cliff Overlooking the Bay, Florida
Meggo79: I was trying to find wording for my ceremony and i may use this! I went to a wedding this weekend where a guest stepped in front of the photographer for the Kiss. I was mad for the photographer and also if you have a videographer make sure they are aware of the photographer also and they stay out of each other’s way the same wedding the videographer was all over the place stepping in front of both photographers. He is actually in a couple of her photos when they are exchanging rings.
Post # 13
I agree 100%! Go for it!
This topic of conversation actually came up recently at a wedding Fiance and I attended recently. After the ceremony, he comented that he’d be really disappointed if all the pro picutres we have of me walking down the aisle showed cameras/cellphones covering the faces of all our guests. I may show him your post and steal your wording for our own programs!
Post # 15
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I think it’s totally fine. We had an “unplugged” ceremony, nobody seemed to mind, and I would do it the same way in a heartbeat. Seeing everyone’s smiling faces instead of a sea of screens was so wonderful.
THAT SAID! I find the “experience this with your heart”, “be truly present”, etc etc wording to be SO ANNOYINGLY precious and condescending. My eyes would be rolling out of my head, seriously.
Fyi, we had our officiant say “Before we begin, the bride and groom would like to respectfully request that you keep your cameras and phones off during the ceremony. They have arranged some excellent photographers to capture this part of the day, and they’ll happily share all the pictures with anyone who is interested. So for now, please just sit back and enjoy the next few minutes.”
And of course, you do need to set up a way to share photos with anyone who would want them, since you’re prohibiting them from taking their own. We posted all of ours on a smugmug.com account where they were available for free download, and emailed the link to all the guests.