(Closed) Will guests view this situation as a “cash bar” and potentially be pissed?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

No I dont think people are going to be pissed or think you’re tacky or cheap… BUT if the bar is within walking distance, I have to admit I think youre going to lose half your group to the bar.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

I attended a wedding reception where this was the case – dry wedding, but there was a bar upstairs.  It worked out fine.  I don’t think it’s tacky at all.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I actually would be surprised if people did go to the bar – I’ve been to dry weddings (and although I do very much enjoy the adult beverages) if I knew it was a dry wedding, I would feel awkward going to buy booze.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

If it’s a separate bar and it’s open to all guests of the hotel, not just your wedding guests, then totally, you are fine!

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It is totally your perogative to have a dry wedding. Hosts provide beverages- not necessarily alcoholic beverages.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

If you could bring in your own wine, have it at a seperate table and let guests open and pour for themselves. No one would care in the least (no tip!) and bonus for you, no corkage!

If that’s not possible, as a guest, I wouldn’t care in the least of attending a dry wedding. I could grab a cocktail before or after the reception if I *really* needed to.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@thejill:  If you could bring in your own wine, have it at a seperate table and let guests open and pour for themselves. No one would care in the least (no tip!) and bonus for you, no corkage!


I was going to suggest this.  Maybe just putting a red and a white bottle of wine on the tables and the guests can serve themselves if they want some.  A lot of liquor store do case discounts and you probably could get away with 2 cases.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I personally wouldn’t care and I’ve been to weddings where the bar was in walking distance of the event and me and Future Brother-In-Law camped out there prior to the ceremony and after the reception was over (FI doesn’t drink). During the wedding we didn’t go out there, I drank all his wine, he drank all my beer and we still had a great time when both ran out.

You’re not requiring people to buy and if they want to duck out for a minute to have a drink and conversation, well – at least they’re still having a good time.

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think this is totally fine. Not tacky at all, and actually kinda nice. I think it can be nice to have multiple spaces so the bar are could act as an extra space. And it could help with entertainment: Hmm, what should we do? Hey lets go take a quick trip to the bar! One recommendation I do have is to let your guests know that you won’t be offended if they go get a drink at the bar. If I wasn’t sure I would probably not go because I would be afraid of the couple being offended.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Who cares what they think!

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