Post # 1
This is my first post. I finally bought a dress; the most expensive dress I will ever buy and I’m scared that he won’t like it. I usually take a long time to make such important decisions but my mother loved it and I loved it and I decided to just go for it. My biggest concern when buying the dress is that it might be too little girl princess and not enough sophisticated sexy.
We’ve been together a long time and he is a very calm person and I so badly want him to have that moment when he sees me; I want him to think that I am the most beautiful woman that he has ever seen.
The dress has a tulle bottom and a beaded corset top; it does not have a hoop skirt and does not go out as far as a full ballgown but it is a princess look.
Since I have a tulle princess dress I was looking through tulle ballerina/princess flower girl dresses and showed my fiance some pictures of flower girl dresses and asked if he liked any. He picked out one of the only dresses out of 50 that were not tulle. So I asked him if he likes tulle, and he said not really; then he said that it’s OK for a little girl.
I felt immediately crushed. I know he doesn’t want to know what my dress looks like and I don’t want to tell him either. I just ordered it from a shop last Saturday and I’m wondering if it might be possible to cancel it. I don’t know what to do and I’m scared that he won’t get that moment when he sees me that I’ve wanted so badly. There was another dress that I also really liked that was a slimmer look and not a princess dress at all. I am wondering if I picked wrong.
I know this all might sound a bit silly but I really want to wow him and now I don’t know if this dress wll do it. Any advice is appreciated.
Post # 3
@Saqqara: Honey, he wouldn’t care if you showed up to your wedding in a paper bag. If you REALLY love your dress, your head will be high and that high self-esteem and confidence you will carry when you wear your dress will make you look beautiful alone. He loves you for what’s on the inside, not the outside and the dress is on the outside of you. My husband never really cared. All he asked was for something fitted and not too much going on (no ruffles or any of that other stuff). I fell in love with a sweetheart strapless satin ballgown that was very fitted at the top with a beaded belt. It showed off my figure well. I was confident on my wedding day and my husband was so happy and excited to be marrying me. He didn’t cry but I was glad he didn’t cause it would have made me cry. But you could still see the love and excitement coming from us. That’s all that matters. He did say I looked good in my dress but your future husband is going to say the same thing.
Post # 4
@Saqqara: I agree with the posting above. I feel to many brides worry about what their fiances will think but in all actuality they asked YOU to marry them. That speaks volumes. They dont care what the dress looks like just as long as you are in it.
Post # 5
o tough sitution! Honestly i would put like 10 pics of wedding dresses online and ask him to rank the dresses, and have one of them be yours. You dont need to tell him that you have already bought yours, and then judge his opinion!
Post # 6
Thats a hard one I asked my fi something similar about dresses and he described something that I know Im not wearing, but if you buy a dress and you wear proudly he will love it….
And of course looking at photos online never does a dress justice, so he might say he like one dress and if he saw it in person would hate it….
You know your body and what works for you!! so just do you and be fierce with it and he will love it as well
Post # 7
I was worried that my DH wouldn’t like my dress, too. He would sit beside me while I watched ‘Say “Yes!” to the Dress’ and make comments about certain dresses being too poufy, and stupid flower appliques, etc… which was everything my dress had! On the big day, he gave me nothing but compliments, however, and cried 3 times during our ceremony… he loved ME, and didn’t care what my dress looked like (although, now he says that he likes that it was strapless, so he could see my boobs, lol). Don’t worry your pretty little head… every little thing gon’ be alright. ;]
Post # 8
Don’t over think it!
I was afraid my FI wouldn’t like my dress either! I’m a size 4 and he LOVES seeing me in tight dresses (of course…) and I ended up with a lace & tulle ball gown, which def hides my figure, but I thought the fitted gowns were too sexy for what I wanted for my wedding! I was so worried he’d hate it.. He came to a bridal show with me and told me he didn’t like all lace gowns (mine’s not all lace so that was good), didn’t like mermaid gowns (check), didn’t like huge gowns (ehhh…I have a ball gown)… I just figured he doesn’t know what he likes, lol and honestly, once your FH sees you as his wife, he will LOVE you in whatever you’re wearing. You will look beautiful!! Go with what YOU love 🙂