(Closed) Will I get my privacy back?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Once the wedding is over, I’m sure people will calm down with the questions, especially if the questions are all wedding-related.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@ambereyez: You are my long lost bride twin. I have ben wondering the same thing. If we aren’t even done with the wedding and we are already being bothered by baby questions when will this end?

And my mom wants me to get a land line phone on top of my cell phone. F that! Lol.

Post # 6
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Wannabee

You’re going to have to set some boundries with your inlaws and other family members- especially if you and Fiance are planning to have children down the road. My in-laws are very religious and their views contradict what my husband and I believe. We had to sit down and have a talk with them about boundries and what is and isn’t acceptable when it comes to religion for us. After we explained our position and our request, they stopped butting in and pushing. I hope that helps. 🙂

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I think this completely depends on the personalities involved. For me, the people who have always been instrusive just intensified their questions during the wedding, and they only backed off to their “usual” level afterward. Those who never asked many personal questions may have been a little more inquisitive, but they stayed on the good side of annoying-excited. And the ones who have always been apathetic… stayed apathetic.

Only a handful of people got worse and stayed that way, so I totally sympathize with you. I detest intrusive questions, particularly those that involve finances or our reproductive future (or lack thereof). 

I suspect that people will settle back down post-wedding (though it might take a few months), and only if they’re into the whole baby or house craze will they continue to bug you.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Somewhat. Then prepare for the when’s the baby questions!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

You might but once the wedding is over you’ll get the when are kids coming questions.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Nearly 8 days of blissful quiet over here. By the wedding itself, I was ready for a meltdown – I just couldn’t handle the emails and the phone ringing off the hook and everyone’s attention directed at my every choice or move. 

But now, it’s so lovely and peaceful. People occasionally want to do debriefing chats – loved this part of the wedding, let’s talk about how good the food was, you were lovely, etc. – but I don’t miind those, and they’re only when I happen to be in another’s company. No one seems to be seeking me out or sending me messages with questions. It’s soooooo nice. I guess they assume (correctly) that Darling Husband and I want some down time. 

It gets better! Just take deep breaths and hang in there.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

At this point I think I’d kill for some wedding related questions. Ever since FH and I started dating, Future Father-In-Law has been asking us about kids. He told FH a few days ago that he expected us to have kids and that we needed to “hurry it up already”. We’re 22 and not even married yet for Pete’s sake…

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Absolutely.  I could’ve written this post this time last year. We got married in September 2011 and although there was some post-wedding chatter about pictures and what-not, it died down immensely and Darling Husband and I were back to our lives being our own 🙂

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

We do get the kid question whenever we visit family but I just state the facts “We’re remodeling our kitchen, I’m 21, etc.” instead of directly answering the question. It seems to cut them off at the knees, insted of saying “Well, not right now…” and them asking why not now, and trying to convince you that you need kids, that they’re wonderful, that you can definitely afford them, etc.

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