(Closed) Will I get to sit at the head table?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Typically, no, it is only the wedding party at the head table. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

No, you will sit with the rest of the guests.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@rosyQ87:  Every wedding I’ve been to where there was a head table was bride/grrom and bridal party only, no dates. I have seen someone do a king’s table before which had bridal party and their dates with the bride&groom. 

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

All depends. Most accommodating brides realize that their Bridal Party will want to sit with their SO’s but some don’t. You’ll either have to ask the bride (which I personally wouldn’t do since that could come off as annoying) or just wait and see when you get there. Are you sure they’re even having a head table? Was it previously discussed?

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@rosyQ87: I had to sit at the head table while my Fiance was seated with the dates of other bridesmaids in the last wedding I was in :(. It depends on the bride though, some will choose to have a sweetheart table with just the bride and groom, while seating the bridal party with their dates at other tables.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I have never been to a wedding where dates of the bridal party sat at the head table.  However, is seating is arranged, I do notice that the dates will usually sit together, and this does not make for bad company (personal experience).  You will survive…plus I’m sure Fiance will look fantastically handsome as a GM!!!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Maybe, but probably not. Don’t be upset if you don’t though, it isn’t personal.

How do you plan to handle it at your wedding?

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

This is the exact reason we are doing a sweetheart table!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

I would expect you will be seated at a guest table, not at the head table.

I try to look at these situations, as a chance to practice my socialization skills.  To try to learn something about new people.  To ask questions about them, and have great conversations.

 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

@rosyQ87:  I am 100% in agreement with andielovesj  on the matter of exercising one’s making-conversation skills. At truly-formal occasions the norm is for all couples to be separated precisely to ensure that the conversation is general and doesn’t devolve into a whole group of twosomes ignoring one another. Those social skills stand you in good stead in business life at corporate AGMs, or if (God forbid) you find yourself campaigning for local office. And it is great fun, when you have made the effort to get your favourite man well-turned-out, to watch him turn heads.

But, it is even nicer if he realizes that playing second fiddle to the bride can be a bit erosive of the ego, and does some things to remind you that you are number one with him. And, just in case he hasn’t thought of it, you can consider leaving this post “accidentally” up on the screen when he needs the computer for a moment 😉

For example: he might consider buying you flowers to wear. An old-fashioned gentlemen routinely provides a corsage for his lady prior to a night out — it isn’t just a “mothers and grandmothers” thing. Or, if flowers aren’t your thing, this would be a good occasion to surprise you with a gift of jewelry you could wear to the wedding. If he is going to be riding in a wedding car, he should consider how you are going to get to the ceremony and a reception, and perhaps arrange for a buddy to pick you up and drive you, or arrange for your cab, or lend you the keys to his hot car. During the cocktail hour he probably won’t be available to hang off your arm, but he can take a moment to talk to you and introduce you to a couple more people. Once the obligatory dances are over he should make a point of dancing with you first and last, and also introduce you to other people that might dance with you. And so on.

 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I agree with others that it’s unlikely. However, I prefer that my bridal party sits with their dates (I know they’ll have more fun that way), so we’re not having them sit separately. We’re non-traditional, though.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

This is the exact reason we are not having a head table!

We have 1 couple in our BP so we`ve decided to have a sweetheart table for us and then our Bridal Party with their SO will sit together beside where our parents are sitting.

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