Post # 1
I do not want a diamond for personal reasons. I dont have anything against anyone who does have one but my personal preference is a colored gem stone. Something my SO said when we were looking at rings really made me think. He was sending me pictures on my phone of rings he thought fit the bill of what I had been saying I want. We will not be picking out the ring together so he wanted to make sure he was on the right general track. One ring he sent me was a bit of a wild card (all the rest were right on target with what I had in my head) and I said I liked it but was surprised that I did.the reason being that most of what I have been drawn too have been light colored stones like aquamarine, green amethyst, morganite etc. and this one was an orange sapphire which is a stronger color for sure. then he said “well I know you, and you like to blend in more than you like to stand out and with something like your e ring, even though its not a diamond I think as close to classic as you can get will be what you are ultimately happy with”. He has a point. I am pretty traditional in my style and dont like too be too wild or out there with anything about myself, hair, make up, clothing, home decor, you name it. So it struck me as odd that I wanted the colored gem thing for my e ring. I still want a gemstone ring but now the thought has creeped into my head that maybe one day ill regret not getting a more classic looking engagement ring. Like a moissanite, or a white sapphire or a clearwhite stone. To those that have a gemstone ring, can you post a picture of it and tell me if its lost any of its appeal to you since first getting it? And what was your reason for choosing a gemstone?
Post # 3
Tanzanite, and I chose it cause purple rocks (pun intended) and it is actually rare, or at least more rare than diamonds.
Post # 4
I don’t have my “official” e-ring yet, but I’m getting a very, very pale blue aquamarine. The deeper the color is, the pricier the stone, but I truly prefer the aqua with almost just a tint of blue. The jeweler was surprised, but pulled out a pair of earrings in just that shade to confirm.
I chose it because I don’t want a diamond and I’m a colorful person. The stone is light enough to have that classic look while being original and precisely what I wanted. Ethical issues aside, clear stones such as diamonds and moissanite as the focal point have never appealed to me, aesthetically.
I’ll post pics when she’s done 🙂
Post # 5
@Atalanta: Wow your ring is so cool! Do you have more pics?
Post # 6
I can’t say personally as I don’t have experience with a gemstone e-ring (mine is a diamond). However, I can respond by sharing what I was told when we we were shopping.
I saw a GORGEOUS yellow diamond e-ring that was worth about $50,000 and of course I had to try it on. I was drooling of course and the jeweler said that while he does admire the yellow diamonds he doesn’t stock them or sell them too often. Typically when he does it is younger brides looking for something different. He went on to say that while it may seem like something amazing at first he has had some come back to trade for a normal diamond as it accomodates more outfits/situations etc. Overall he didn’t seem to project that it was a good “idea” to go down that route, which I found surprising.
Again, I don’t have experience and don’t necessarily agree with that one opinion and I certainly love and drool over colored diamonds and gemstones that is just what he said. Just a thought to put out there.
Post # 7
I have a blue sapphire e-ring and am as happy with it as the day I got it. I can’t imagine having anything else.
Post # 8
I didn’t choose a colored gemstone, but I went through a very similar thought process. I have always loved sapphires of all colors, and the aquamarines and morganites on here make me swoon. I ultimately chose moissanite because I wanted the classic look, and I am fickle so I was afraid I would lose my love of any color. Ironically, my indecisiveness ultimately helped me make my decision. I think you should try to be honest about yourself. Do you lose interest in things quickly? If so, a more “classic” option may be better for you the way it was for me.
Post # 9
I have an aquamarine and I wanted a pale shade for the same reasons as @Roe. I love the just a tint of color. I also LOVE green amethyst! Aquamarine is also my birthstone. (sorry for huge pic)
Post # 10
@Treejewel19: that is hilarious, you just described me to a T! I wanted a yellow diamond in my younger days and then I realized it’d be hard to match my outfits and fit every day situations and changed my mind! Not like Darling Husband was willing to spend that much anyway. LOL.
Post # 11
@rachiecakes: I love your aquamarine! It made me swoon the way I mentioned in my post lol.
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2012 - Mother of the Bride's residence
I have an amethyst engagement ring and I love it. It was not what I thought I’d be getting at all but I have no regrets (other than that I’d still love rose gold or yellow gold, haha).
I have to say I don’t really understand the worry people have about their jewelry matchigng their clothes and stuff — when I wear glasses the frames don’t match everything, and I sort of think of it like that. I know engagement rings are a lot more permanent than glasses but believe me, everyone is not staring at your coloured ring and thinking that it doesn’t match your outfit. 🙂
Post # 13
@rachiecakes: Gorgeous! Green amethyst was my second choice. The jeweler kept asking if aqua was my birthstone. Nope, just what I like. 🙂
Post # 14
@msdragon: I get what you are saying but there are some people (like myself) that are incredibly detail oriented. Yeah its crazy, I know, but the thought of my e-ring or any other ring or jewelery not matching would drive me INSANE! If I had glasses they would be a generic design otherwise I would lose it.
Post # 15
Also, OP, my current e-ring is also an aquamarine that was gifted to us. It is very high quality and very deep blue. Honestly? I dislike how deep of a blue the stone is, most of the time. So if you are thinking that bold colors may not be your thing, I would stick with your originial inclination to the lighter colored gemstones.
Post # 16
I don’t think you will regret it. As I have posted in other threads, the only reason I ended up with a diamond is because it is a family heirloom stone that Fiance very much wanted me to have. When we were looking for rings, I had picked out morganite and amethyst and also considered blue sapphires and rubies (I LOVE rubies). I had no idea he intended to give me his mother’s ring. While I am not all disappointed in my lovely diamond (that sucker SPARKLES!) I would have also love to have had a deep blue sapphire.
I also know of at least one bride-to-be, personally, with a dark blue sapphire. She is very much the “classic”, not so over the top type, and she loves it! I can attest that her ring is stunning and still “traditional”. It’s a beauty.