(Closed) Will I regret a moissy? Do you?

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Post # 61
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

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forgotusername :  I have openly owned up to my feelings about moissanite on this site MANY times. As have a few others. I just now saw this thread, so here ya go, I’ll throw you a bone.

I love my ring in the way that 1) we designed it together and it’s very symbolic (at the time I was more interested in having the perfect setting anyways); 2) buying moissanite let us get engaged sooner than we normally would have and it made our timeline work out a lot more (we were super poor when we married); 3) it’s sparkly and since I have an OEC it’s very diamond-like and no one gives it a second thought.

I started to dislike my moissanite after it developed the dreaded oil slick stain. There is something (I’m assuming) about my hard water that leaves a round stain on the table of my stone. This requires cleaning with silver polish every few weeks. I know that I am the only one that can see it – but to me, I am the only one that needs to love my ring. I thought I had done my fair share of due diligence on moissanite research to make sure I was getting something I loved, and never came across anyone talking about the stain until I encountered it IRL for myself.

So the plan is to one day replace this stone with an OEC diamond, but life gets in the way, ya know? The diamond money we saved up this past year went to paying off vet bills when our dog got brain cancer. And now we need a new roof on our home. My Darling Husband likes to reassure me that I will have one, one day, but at the same time he thinks “What’s the point? No one can tell it’s not a diamond. It looks like a diamond to me.” So he really doesn’t understand when the little stain flairs up and I get diamond envy here and there.

At the end of the day I look down at my ring and think, “Wow. Here’s something that we designed together. Here’s something that symbolizes our marriage. It’s just a material object and at the end of the day I have a husband who loves me, a happy little family, a roof over my head and food in my belly.” So whether or not I ever do replace it with a diamond will be for another day, sometime far away when a giant chuck of our savings doesn’t get eaten up for emergencies. The little girl inside me that always dreamed of her perfect diamond ring is still in there (Thanks DeBeers!), but the grown woman that I am thinks she’s silly and that I have so many other things in life to be grateful for.

I hope that helps someone.

ETA: Here’s some pics of my ring

Post # 62
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I agree with RayKay and others that it is a mind-clean thing. For some, a moissy is always going to be less than a diamond and if you feel that way, you will likely be unhappy. If you love a moissy for its unique characterstics, you will love it. The fact that it looks “like” a diamond and is much less is one of those charateristics. From looking on the pre-loved boards, it looks to me that moissy lose more of their buying price on re-sell, as compared to diamonds — at least for modern cuts. OEC moissy seems in high demand right now, and they seem to be holding more of their value. 

My very new anaversery ring to replace a lost 2 c OEC diamond is an Amora Gem OEC center (8.2 mm, 2.24c), flanked by two round and two pear diamonds (1.06 tcw). I love old cuts. I was looking at a lot of vendors and one of them said they had seen an Amora GEM OEC and that I should have a look. He was right, I loved the faceting pattern. I got it first and then [email protected] designed a ring around it that would suit my large fingers (10.25) and my existing Etoile-wedding band. The questions I’ve gotten were more because of the OEC cut and the fact that it is new.  

{escuse the fingernails, my job and winter wreck my nails}

way better beauty shots: https://thegemstoneproject.com/the-resilient/

 

Post # 64
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Thanks so much! I’m kinda in love with it.

Post # 65
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

As a secondary ring, which isn’t too ridiculously expensive, to a diamond engagement ring you didn’t have to spend a lot of money on… why not just get one?  If you love wearing it, then it’s not like you wasted money on the diamond ring just to put it aside… and if you hate wearing it over your diamond, then it’s not too much money wasted on it.  If you like having both and swapping between them, then perfect!  You’re not really in a one or the other kind of situation, so I think the easy choice is to buy it and see.

Post # 66
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

 

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illyana :  Except that it was created as a simulant according to GIA…. it’s the only reason moissanite as a gemstone exists – to be a simulant.

https://www.moissaniteco.com/pdf/Synthetic-Moissanite-A-New-Diamond-Substitute.pdf

To quote a major bullet and the first sentence in the paper….

A new diamond imitation, synthetic moissanite (silicon carbide), is now being produced by C3 Inc. in near-colorless form for jewelry purposes.
CONCLUSION Near-colorless synthetic moissanite soon could become widely available as a diamond imitation.

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