(Closed) Will I regret being frugal or tossing extra money at my wedding

posted 4 years ago in Money
Post # 2
3228 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I think you need to decide the areas you want to splurge. Once you have a idea of what you biggest priorities are you can follow your heart. I will say you won’t regret splurging on photography.

Post # 3
217 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I personally hate chair covers and find them annoying when you’re sitting on a chair with one so I personally would scrap that BUT it’s your day and only you know what will bother you the most. I will say that everyone will be sitting in the chairs  and most people won’t notice. Linens and centrepieces make more of an impact. 

Im in the same boat as you and trying to keep it around 10k. I miss inclined to go with whatever the cheapest option is but you have to be weary of your time. Picking up the rentals will save money but it also takes time. If you can afford it, I’d pay for the delivery. 

Im also inclined to go with a pro makeup and hair person unless your friend is amazing at it. 

Post # 4
54 posts
Worker bee

I chose to splurge on hair/makeup and photographer.

imo those are the most lasting parts of the wedding. The photographer obviously because of the pictures, but since he’s going to be photographing the bride so much, might as well make yourself look as good as possible for the photos.

Post # 5
3437 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

It depends on your priorities. We’re also having a park wedding. Its a little less than $7k total, little less than $5k for us counting family contributions. 50 guests. I’m using my regular stylist bc she’s awesome and I trust her with my hair, not bothering with centerpieces, flowers or extra decor, skipping transportation bc the park is 5 min from home so that seems unnecessary. We have a photographer but truthfully could have skipped this too. Food, drinks, guest comfort and music are important to us. Do we absolutely need 12 $55 11 foot tilt umbrellas? Probably not since it’ll be late morning/early afternoon but I wouldn’t want to sit in the sun and don’t want to possibly leave guests uncomfortable. (tents looked awful, not a fan) Do we absolutely need separate sets of ceremony and reception chairs? Not necessarily but the alternative is having guests drag their chairs a short way to the reception area. Pass. Definitely paying for delivery, set up and servers. Not something I want to worry about doing myself. Decide whats important then make your vision fit your budget NOT the other way around. 

Post # 6
963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Is there any option in between on the hair and makeup? $600 is a lot, maybe you could find someone on an app like thumbtack to do it for more like $200? If not, I’d go with friend, if you have someone you trust.

I personally wouldn’t worry about the chairs. From the list you gave, I’d give the biggest priority to having someone to deliver and pick up the tables and glassware, because that is just not worth worrying about on the day of, especially at the end! 

The hotel also seems like a lot, have you looked into renting an apartment on Air BnB? You might find something a lot more afforable there.

Post # 7
1707 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Nobody will remember what the chairs look like!  If you have enough and people will be comfortable, don’t worry about it!

We decided to splurge on things that would make our lives easier – so I would have someone else deal with the glassware and making the Jenga. 

But it is really hard to figure out what to throw money at and what to be more frugal on. 

Post # 11
3437 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

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littlecats :  Thats exactly what we’re doing. 🙂 Fun and casual. Skip the covers! Your guests won’t remember or care, personally I find them unattractive and annoying. I like the idea of standing tables but its one of those fluff extras you could skip if you wanted. I’d take my tacos to my table and mingle after I’m finished. No biggie. 

Post # 12
71 posts
Worker bee

The easy response is get what you want and don’t get what you don’t want, but personally I would have a friend do my hair and makeup, leave the chairs as they are, spend on the delivery and pickup of rentals, and look for a better priced hotel. The game thing I would consider a fun diy.

Post # 13
486 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

Oh girl. I can so relate on this! Your save vs. splurges take me back to planning my own wedding! Our budget was 10k as well. Honestly, the only thing I would change about my own wedding is hiring someone to video it. I didn’t even consider it, but now I’ve wished a hundred times for a video just to relive our day every so often, because it was the brightest and happiest day of my life!

After doing a makeup trial and not liking it, I had a friend do my makeup (I always loved her makeup!), and she just did a practice run before the rehearsal, and I freaking LOVED my makeup. So glad that was a “save.”

We purchased mason jars, but my DH didn’t know about it, and he bought red solo cups and put them out while I was getting ready, and no one even used the mason jars. hahaha

We also did a taco bar. $6/person. Total win. Our cocktail hour during photos was a salsa and guac bar with watermelon sangria I made myself and beer.

Speaking of beer, we did get an expensive keg of craft beer, but we only had three buck chuck wine and I made the sangria the night before from BOXED wine! The sangria was a huge hit. It was crazy cheap to make. We returned all the unused three buck chuck to Trader Joe’s. We were glad we splurged on the beer, because although we didn’t have any big drinkers, my DH loves high quality expensive beer.

We didn’t have games. The ceremony and reception were on the beach, and we had a rad DJ, so we figured that would just have to be entertainment enough lol

Someone gifted us a $500/night hotel for the wedding night and even if it hadn’t been a gift, I would definitely stay there again. It was worth EVERY. SINGLE. PENNY. Honestly, it made our wedding night perfect. The hotel gave us a nice bottle of champagne and we started our marriage off in a big bubble bath. It was absolutely amazing. So I would say go for it!!!

Trust your instincts! You know what is most important to you guys. xx


Post # 14
367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I feel ya! I’m indecisive by nature (research to death and the. Agonize over the RIGHT decision? Lol). I felt the same with the wedding. 

I cheaped out on hair and makeup and really really really wish I hadn’t. The pictures will last forever and I kinda hate how my hair/makeup turned out. I’d splurge there.  Forget the chair covers… it won’t matter in the long run. I’d buy the Jenga. Pick up the rentals if you can delegate to someone else in family. Otherwise deliver. we came home after the wedding and I loved sleeping in my own bed. Plus we slept in instead of checking out! Mighta been nice to do something special, but I don’t regret it. 

Like pp said, figure out what’s important to you… we prioritized photos, venue(food drink), and flowers (my fave). We didn’t have a DJ or a formal cake (just cupcakes from a bakery and a cutting cake from local grocery). What’s important to you will be different! 

Post # 15
3804 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

If you did all these things how over budget would you be? Would it be a disaster to go a little bit over? I would definitely get the rental delivery and pickup as that would be a pain for you.

– For hair and makeup, my bridesmaid’s sister ended up being way better than any of the professionals I tried, so why not have a trial with your friend and see! 

– Unless the chairs are really terrible you can probably forgo covers.

– I would definitely get the rental delivery and pickup as that would be a pain for you.

– If making Jenga is fun for you then go ahead, if it’s a pain I’d buy it. After all I imagine the cost of materials could be close to $70 anyway? 

– I feel like a keg is something small that could make a big impact on the vibe of the wedding. It’s fun and people will notice it much more than chair covers. If you are able to it would be cool to get it.

– Could compromise on the hotel and have one night with late checkout?

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