(Closed) Will I regret it?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

I would, but I think that that is one question you can only answer for yourself. How does your Fiance feel about it?

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I definitely would regret it.. but everyone is different.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Personally I would look back and think I was missing something. But I’m thinking if you’re asking if you’d regret it, you may have imbedded regrets yourself.

If that’s the case, there is absolutely nothing with a ‘wedding do-over’. Maybe on an anniversary throw a vow renewal ceremony, complete with the reception you want and then be able to escape when work schedules allow.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would regret it, but that’s a personal decision. Like the other pp has stated, that’s something that only you can answer for yourself.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

That’s a very personal question. I feel if you have to ask if you would regret it, then maybe you’re having second thoughts? Weddings are all very personal, so I know I would regret it, but that doesn’t mean you would. Just take a step back and really think it over. Pros and cons from both sides may help.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think it’s personal too. We had to change our wedding for similar reasons. I’m still wearing a white dress and having dinner (though that will be at a family member’s house). I think it boils down to what’s important to you in the long run. At first I wanted the big white wedding, but I was never really one of the girls who dreamt about their wedding their whole life. When we changed to what we are doing now I was a little sad, but now that time has passed I’m falling in love with the idea. We picked a historical venue for our ceremony too. I think it’s wonderful and unique. Our guest list is smaller now than it was, but we’ll still have our nearest and dearest with us. To me as long as I’m married to my Fiance and get to celebrate it with those I love that’s all that matters. 

If you are worried about the regrets I would break it down into what parts of the big wedding you would miss the most. They may be things you can find a way to incorporate into your evening.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@nay-no:   If you think you’ll be ok I think you’ll be just fine! If you do have any regrets in the future you could always have a snazzy vow renewal. Wink

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Your wedding sounds lovely, I don’t think you’ll regret it.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Personally I wouldnt. To me that sounds like the ideal wedding with those who I love most. As long as your Fiance shows up and say “I DO” what else is there to regret. It sounds wonderful!!!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

Only you know what’s right for you! Just remember that if you absolutly want to get married NOW, you can always renew your vows in like 10 years and have a big party then. That way, if you’re having major regret, you can still have that “big white wedding” when you will be in more of a solid financial situation.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

The ladies are right, you have to decide that for yourself. However, I can tell you that I didn’t and still don’t regret getting married under sort of similar ways. 

Darling Husband and I were pretty broke, ready to get married, really needed to get married before September 2011 (we were moving and had to be married for me to go) and we just didn’t want to deal with all of the family drama and everything.

I bought a dress, he bought a suit, and we got married alone while on holiday in New York. It was planned – we had a priest, a photographer (i’m lucky and am friends with an amazing one), a really small cake. After the ceremony we ate cake alone in our hotel and then went out to dinner at a fancy restaurant. (I changed into a short white lace dress).  It was amazing. I loved it, and almost a year later, I am thrilled at how we chose to do it. It was the tiny wedding I never knew I wanted.

This year, we are having an anniversary party reception thing. No gifts, but catered with about 80-120 people in a historic building in Detroit (near where I grew up). I’m wearing a party dress, and I think it will be a blast. However, planning it and seeing how silly drama pops up everywhere makes me so glad we didn’t let it happen to our wedding. 

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