Post # 1
So my Dad is getting remarried this weekend, and we are the following Friday.
My Mom is having blue murder because I said Fiance and I don’t want a pic of us with her and my Dad. It makes no sense to me as we will never display it, I can’t think why she would want to and my Dad will have a new wife so I KNOW he wont display it.
Why on earth would we pose for this picture?
I’m willing to do one of me only and both parents if they both end up walking me down the aisle, but that’s it. My Mom also refuses to be in any with my Dad’s new wife.
Help – how did other bees deal with this? Will I regret not having what I consider to be a ‘fake’ family photo?
Post # 3
I think a photo with your parents would be nice? Just have them stand on opposite sides of you and your Darling Husband. They’re still your parents even if they’re not married and it’s nice to have a pic of you and your parents on your wedding day.
My photographer took a million difference pictures with other people, so it’s not that big of a deal. If your mom wants it, take the pic.
Post # 4
DH’s parents are divorced. We got a pictures of him with his mom and dad because even if they are divorced they are still his parents. He likes having a picture of him and his parents all dressed up for his wedding day.
Post # 5
my parents have been divorced for years. my dad is remarried and my mom has a long-term bf. i didn’t plan on having my parents in the same picture b/c i wanted to ‘test the waters’ once they were in the same room. they were fine.
during cocktail hour, when everyone was mingling, i had my photographer take a quick picture of my mom, my dad and myself. i never had a pic with the 3 of us. i won’t be displaying it, it won’t be in my photo album but i have it. no regrets.
Post # 6
My parents are divirced and I got a picture with both of them together. Even though they are divorced and you may not post it in a picture frame they are still both your parents and it’ll be nice to have even just to look at it on your computer.
Post # 7
Thanks bees – the pic of me with them I get and will have as they are maybe (if my mom behaves) walking me down the aisle. that one for sure.
It’s the one of me & Fiance with both of them that I don’t get. Fiance has never known them as a couple and it is just.makes.no. sense.to.me.
Me and Mom & Dad – yes
Me and Fiance and Mom – yes
Me and Fiance and Dad – yes
Me and Fiance and Dad & New wife – yes
Me and Fiance and Dad & Mom after the ceremony – I do not get it?? It just is like a fake family that I don’t understand.
Post # 8
For what it is worth, I took very few professional pictures without my husband (I had a few with my BMs, my sister, and then my mom and my sister. That was it, and it wasn’t really planned. I think he got a few with his groomsmen, but everything else I was in). The day is obviously about the two of you before anything else, so it makes sense that the two of you are in the family photos as a couple.
Post # 9
I’m in a similar situation and am still trying to decide what kind of family pictures I want to be taken at our wedding. I will say that I had a picture taken with both of my parents at my high school graduation and I’ve always been thankful to have it. I remember feeling very awkward about it at the time, but it’s one of those things that I’ll always be glad to have.
Post # 10
I’m not married yet, but this is how I handled it at my highschool prom. My parents are divorced, and remarried/in a relationship, and can’t stand each other. I asked for a photo with my entire family, my siblings and my parents, one with my dad, one with my mom, one with both my parents, one with my dad and step mom, and one iwth my mom and her boyfriend. That way everyone got a photo with a person they would want to hang in their house, and I got a photo with my parents, just for me. It’s not a family photo, it’s a photo of my family.
Post # 11
Here is the reasoning behind You, Fiance, Mum and Dad – These are your FI’s new in-laws!
If you are only going to consider your dad’s new wife as “the new wife” and not as “step mum” then she isn’t your FI’s Mother In-Law.
Therefore, his Mother In-Law and his Father In-Law are your mum and dad.
Also, given that they both raised you, it is nice to have a photo of the four of you as they are obviously important to you as a parental unit (but not a married one)
At the end of the day, even if you think it’s odd, it will only take 2 minutes and will make your mother happy. Where’s the harm?
Post # 12
My parents are divorced, and they don’t get along anymore either, and we did not do any photo’s with both parents. We did photo’s with my moms side of the family, and with my mom, and we did photo’s with my dad and step mom, and their side. The end. And I dont regret it at all. I never even thought twice about it.
I think it would be dfferent if your parents were on friendly terms and everyone still respected each other etc… which in my case, they don’t.
Post # 13
If you don’t want a picture with both parents then don’t get one. However, it might be nice for your children, grandchildren, etc. to have a picture of you with both of your parents at the wedding.
Post # 14
I think you should just take it “just in case”. You may never change your mind and that picture will never see the light of day, or you may change your mind someday and regret not having these photos. Assuming your photographer is giving you all the digital files from the entire day and you’re not paying per photo, I think you might as well. It’s not going to cost you any extra.
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Since your mother wants a photo, I don’t see why you’re objecting. She wants it, I’m sure you’re dad won’t mind standing there for one minute. So what’s the problem… why create a fight over this?
Why would she want it? To remind her of the good times of course.