Will I regret skipping most of the traditional reception activities?

posted 2 years ago in Reception
Post # 16
1406 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

We skipped dances (didn’t have any dancing at our wedding, it was a brunchy type affair with harp/violin music in the background). We did do the cake cutting, bouquet toss and garter. Didn’t really care to do either of the two “tosses” but felt like we needed something during the reception.

Post # 17
734 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I highly doubt you’ll regret it. Darling Husband and I did first dance, cake cutting, and toasts because we wanted it, but skipped all the other traditions. I’m all about couples partaking in the traditions that appeal to them, and skipping the ones that don’t. You’re wedding sounds really nice and intimate, those traditions you don’t even want will only make it awkward. 

Post # 18
395 posts
Helper bee

There are several things to consider. 1.  Do having photos of such things as a cake cutting, bouque and garter toss or first dance mean a lot to you?  Otherwise make our own traditions  – skip the dance and have a game of darts with your spouse or have a casino night or do an “awards” banquet with some talented friends providing some music or stand up and you can buy cheap fun trophies and award them to signinficant people in your lives – reuse the runner from the ceremony to make your “red” carpet.  Do a game show ie Family Feud or the p rice is right with prizes.  Karaoke if that is you think – whatever make it a good time for  you and  your guests.  To some people it means a lot – I know of some people who I think have some self esteem issues mind you but they insisted the cake must not only be cut with them but at least three tiers or they “missed” something.  Ditto for chair covers and sashes.  I constantly say this – it is not the details that make the wedding it is the  people.  

Post # 19
1017 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

We did a cake cutting and first dance. We were going to skip it but glad we did it in the end. It was the first time all day that Darling Husband and I had a moment to ourselves (even though everyone was watching). But it was 3 minutes of just us and we got really sweet photos of it.

Everything else we skipped, I just don’t think they are done at weddings anymore. I haven’t seen parent dances or bouquet/garter toss in over 15 years.

Post # 20
167 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I can’t think of a reason why you would regret it lol. We skipped everything you’re planning to skip and only did the first dance, which we loved. I actually had never even heard of the garter toss before I was talking to the DJ about what we would and wouldn’t be doing. I was like…wait, the what??

Post # 21
330 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

sparky904 :  we didn’t do any formal dances, bouquets and gater toss, or cake cutting. We didn’t even have a bridal party. Just a quick ceremony then dinnner followed by a really fun party. I was indifferent to all of that and I knew it would make my then fiancé really uncomfortable. I haven’t regettted it for a second. 

Post # 22
24 posts

We did the cake cutting and a first dance.  I really treasure the pictures of those.  We chose a very short song for the dance 😉  I would have preferred a nontraditional dessert (would have “cut” it just the same), but cake came with our venue.

We skipped quite a few traditional wedding things – the garter toss/bouquet toss, parent dances, and announcing us and the bridal party.  I didn’t wear a veil.  I had two Maid/Matron of Honor and my husband had a best man, no other attendants.  I cut our ceremony wayyyy down so no readings or anything.  I didn’t have a bachelorette party.  We didn’t do a lot of the “extras” that are becoming popular now (photobooths, special exits, etc).

I would have LOVED to forgo toasts, but our families would have mutinied.

You should do what YOU want.  You aren’t going to regret it.

Post # 23
4244 posts
Honey bee

We did the first dance (which I could have honestly done without) and cake cutting (because cake is delicious). No regrets and would not have considered doing any of the other “standards”- I hate watching them and I wouldn’t be comfortable participating in most of them.

Post # 24
1184 posts
Bumble bee

If you’re already wondering if you’re going to regret it, then you probably will. We are doing just the first dance and speeches and that’s is. We just know that’s what we want. 

Give it some more thought xo

Post # 25
2003 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

we did them all. We probably could have skipped the cake cutting, those pictures came out awful!! lol. but we REALLY wanted to do a bouquet toss and garter removal. We also ended up doing the up the leg tradition, which i wasnt to keen on, but considering the best man and his girlfriend caught the bouquet and garter it couldnt have been more perfect. 

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