Post # 32
You do not need to feel guilty and I doubt you will regret your decision. I will not be inviting my dad to the wedding. He’s an alcoholic who didn’t show up when he said he would and blamed me for my mother’s affair (I was 4 and didn’t tell him apparently, yes my parent’s both made mistakes, but at least my mum stayed around) I have a wonderful family on my mother’s side and my fiance’s family are fantastic – so he is not needed or wanted. I would only regret the decision of inviting him to the wedding!
Post # 33
Good luck with this. I take it you’re not inviting him?
Post # 34
No I do not think that I am. I just do not want to look back after he has passed away and regret not trying to have more of a relationship with him
Post # 35
It sounds like you have tried at least somewhat to have a relationship with him. So there’s that. On the other hand, honey, you can’t have a relationship with someone that doesn’t want one with you. Period. It doesn’t sound like he wants a real relationship with his daughter, it sounds like he wants bragging rights (i.e. your grad photos on his fb wall). Don’t feel guilty for not inviting him, other family members don’t really get an opinion in this either. It’s YOUR day, YOUR biological father, YOUR feelings that are taken into account. If you haven’t felt guilty about not having him in your life so far (which you shouldn’t, it’s certainly not any of your doing!!), then why start now?
Post # 36
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
I wouldn’t invite him. You can always make a small effort towards reconciliation OUTSIDE the wedding, but he’s too untrustworthy for a special day. Any other day will suffice, if you are really wanting to try again with him.
Post # 37
@Mrs_Miklawesome: Oh dear…I highly doubt you will regret not having this pathetic excuse for a “father” walk you down the aisle. I can’t stand people like this…if I were you I would close the door on him completely, but that’s just me. I tend to hold grudges and would really love to stick it to him.
Post # 38
I would definitely not invite him. He sounds like a dangerous person that I would not want to let into my life. For what it’s worth, I haven’t talked to my dad in about 3 years and didn’t invite him to my wedding. I don’t regret it for one millisecond.