Post # 1
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868 posts
Busy bee
I prefer to be photographed from an above angle — it makes my face look better, everyone agrees, this is not me being weird. My photogs are a talented husband and wife team, neither of them are that tall. So, since flats are more comfortable for me anyway I decided to get some flats (so it would be easier/possible for them to be shooting me at my preferred angle). When I told my friends, many of them said that heels make you stand up straighter and feel more bridal and that I should go for kitten heels. (I think there may be truth to that, but at the same time, if I focus on posture, could I fix that?) Problem: my dress fitting is tonight so I need to make this decision in 5 hours. Turning to you, bees!
Post # 3
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1465 posts
Bumble bee
@fingerscrossed: I think you should wear whatever you want! I’m wearing flats just because I want to. Actually, I also think that heels make your posture worse because you literally cannot stand properly in them.
Post # 4
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3765 posts
Honey bee
I wore beautiful heels, and I wish I had worn flats. I was feeling really tired by the time we got to the reception, and I changed into flip flops. Whole new bride once those heels came off! I was happy and ready to party! My dress dragged a tiny bit due to the height difference, but it wasn’t bad at all. I told alterations I would be switching ahead of time.
Post # 5
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3572 posts
Sugar bee
I wore flats and I was happy I did. Wearing a wedding dress is hard enough, why wear tall heels no one is going to see? I was super comfortable and could dance the night away without changing into flats and making the dress too long.
Post # 6
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4439 posts
Honey bee
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@fingerscrossed: It sooooo does not matter. I had a pair of heels that I wore most of the night and a pair of flats on standy. I went with the heels because it meant I wouldn’t have to shorten my dress 😉
Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
I just bought my shoes- wedge heals of a decent height. I was contemplating flats, but my feet are really long and I felt goofy in them. Got the wegde since we’re havign an outdoor wedding, and I didn’t want to sink into the grass and snap my ankle.
Post # 8
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748 posts
Busy bee
I wore flats on my wedding day and was super happy with them! To be fair, I’m pretty tall (5’9″) so that kind of helped me to make the decision. In addition, I never wear heels if I can help it so I didn’t really change that stance on my wedding day. There are beautiful, dressy looking flats that you can get that will look just as pretty as heels. Plus, your feet will probably be thanking you by the end of the night (unless you wear heels on a regular basis and are used to them, of course). 🙂
Post # 9
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Worker bee
Wear whatever you’ll be most comfortable in because you’re in for a looooong day. I wore flats because I’m tall and didn’t want to be noticeably taller than my SO (I’m already like an inch taller), but I found flats that were cute and still made me feel bridal.
Post # 10
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903 posts
Busy bee
I wore heels as a Bridesmaid or Best Man to a wedding last summer and determined I am not comfortable in them lol I was fidgeting the who.e ceremony trying to redistribute my weight so my feet wouldnt hurt and I took them off as soonas we sat down for dinner (talk about classy…)
i’ve determined I will wear comfortable heels that I will pic out myself and wear around the house for the next year for the ceremony and maybe pictures, the. Change into flats for the reception.
Im not worried about the dress length with the flats later on becuase ill also be changing my dress… So my big poofy wedding gown will be Measured for My heels, and my sexy sparkly reception dress will be measured for my flats…
i think the most important thing is that youre comfortable. Honestly no one will see the shoes but they will see you looking in pain/ uncomfortable in bad shoes.
choose wisely!
and contrary to popular belief, i do not find kitten heels any more comfortable then 3 inch heels… Alot of the are super strappy and create these awkward pressure spots…
Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
I broke my knee a few months before my first wedding so I chose to wear flats. It was super comfortable and nobody noticed because they were under my desk. I like the idea of wearing heels this time around but since we’re getting married on the beach I am stuck with wedges which I think make you walk funny or flat sandals.
Post # 12
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4062 posts
Honey bee
I will wear heels and changed into flats. I have a tea length dresneigh dress length wasn’t a problem.
Post # 13
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2777 posts
Sugar bee
If you think you’ll love them wear them. And if they are doing an above shot, won’t they bring a ladder. I didn’t even ask my photographer to do an above shot before hand and he came with one just to do that picture of me. Now that I think about it he did ask for my and FI’s heights before the whole thing and were both pretty tall people for our respective sexes. I found the most comfortable beautiful shoes I could and wore them:
http://www.dsw.com/shoe/italian+shoemakers+baden+wedge+sandal?prodId=267359&productRef=SEARCH
They turned out to go beautifully with my dress. I was doing to do flats but I have high arches in the end I decided to just do comfortable heel or no heel. This is a pic but mine had a gold buckle in the front not white like this one.
Post # 14
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Sugar bee
I wear heels almost every day and I’m super used to them. however, at my wedding, I had to go inside every once in a while to take them off for a little bit because they were hurting so damn bad. go for flats
Post # 15
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10366 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
Everyone looks better photographed from above – it elongates the neck and is just a lot more flattering!
I wore flats, and am so glad that I did! I was comfortable all day/night!
Post # 16
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2966 posts
Sugar bee
@fingerscrossed: Yeah I’m wearing flats. For me it’s an easy decision because :
- As comfortable as some heels are, none last 6 hours
- I get really grumpy when my feet hurt and I will not enjoy anything
- Most comfortable heels are also not the prettiest (they have an orthopedic look to them)
- my dress is made for girls that are 5’9″ (which is how tall I am) and if I wanted to wear heels I’d have to order extra fabric $$$
- FH is 6’1″ so with heels i’d be as tall as him, and I don’t want that
- no one sees them!
Wear what you feel most comfortable in & let us know how the fitting goes! 🙂
