(Closed) Will it be odd if we open our gifts for each other privately?

posted 8 years ago in Holidays
  • poll: Will it be odd if we open our gifts for each other privately?
    Yes - it's rude, you should try to fit in and open them with everyone else. : (0 votes)
    No - it's not rude, but it's a little weird. : (1 votes)
    2 %
    No - it's perfectly fine. : (49 votes)
    91 %
    Other, please explain. : (4 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    4485 posts
    Honey bee

    Not weird or rude at all. Do whatever you’re most comfortable with. If someone is weirded out or offended by it, that’s their issue as it’s really none of their business.

    Post # 4
    88 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Not rude at all!!  Honestly, I think it is more weird to lug your gifts for each other TO their house to open. 

    Post # 5
    77 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    My FI’s family does this also, so we just take a couple of our gifts to each other over to open with his family and the rest we open in our own home together.

    Post # 6
    6015 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    We used to do this on Christmas Eve too.  Even if there are kids, it’s silly … it took seriously HOURS for us to open presents.  There were five of us kids. .. then i have nieces and nephews who are a few years younger then me.  but now that everyone is older, and my dad has stopped videotaping EVERY moment of our lives, it moves faster. 

    We all stay home christmas morning with our SO’s and open our little family family presnts.  Then we get together for like 3pmish and open presents we got for each other.  I do not think it’s weird…

    Post # 7
    558 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I don’t think it’s weird for you to open presents alone, together, at all. My fi and I certainly do, every year.

    That said, my family does the “one at a time” rule too, and the reason for it was that as kids, they didn’t want us to think Christmas was just a gift grab.  By slowing down and watching one at a time, it made us more aware of the experience of giving to others.  As an adult, I still enjoy this rule because that way I get to see the response of each person as they open it/in my opinion, it makes each gift a little more special.

    Post # 8
    2714 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Deff not weird… Some years Fiance and I open our gifts for each other with our family, sometimes we wait until we are alone.

    Oh, we also open our gifts one at a time in my house… For the same reason @huckleberry783: does. I kinda think it’s nice, but understand how it might seem odd if you’ve done it differently all your life. 🙂

    Post # 9
    57 posts
    Worker bee

    why not take one or two gifts to the in-laws house to open, but open the rest of them at your own house?  that way you still participate but don’t have to open all your gifts at the in-laws.

    Post # 10
    14183 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    This is what we typically do. We have “OUR” christmas morning and we exchange gifts. And then we go have family christmas gift exchange with his family. But because my parents and aunt will be at my house this year, I’m not sure it will be a private gift exchange, unless we do it Christmas Eve or unless i specifically take them into the bedroom to do it privately, which just seems dumb.

    Post # 11
    529 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Nope ! We just did that this weekend !

    Post # 12
    1559 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I think it’s important to set a precedent of having some kind of Christmas in your own home together now. Fiance and I usually do “Christmas morning” in our apartment the day before Christmas Eve b/c we have 3 family gatherings to go to between Christmas Eve (his mom), Christmas Day (my family), and the day after Christmas (his dad).

    To me, it’s important to set these traditions early so you have them in place by the time you have children. I know that we will probably have “Christmas morning” with our children a few days before Christmas so we can just enjoy our day without dragging them out and about, so we are just setting our traditions in place now. 

    And remember, you are married! It’s time to think about what is best for YOUR family (You, Fiance, and your future children) not his parents. 

    Post # 13
    474 posts
    Helper bee

    I think you should compromise. It sounds like you want to start your own holiday traditions, which you should, but I think you should also participate in his family’s traditioons. Pick one present each to open with the familiy and open the rest on your own.

    Post # 14
    2825 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @tinylittlebird:  You are going to celebrate christmas with your (future) kids early?  What are you going to tell them about Santa?

    (Not trying to be mean, just curious Laughing)

    As a kid we always had christmas morning at our house and then we would drive to my grandma’s house for christmas dinner (an hour away without traffic).  As a kid I never minded it and really enjoyed going to visit the family on the holiday, I also got a few more gifts there as well. 🙂

    Post # 15
    2825 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I don’t think there is anything wrong with opening your presents for eachother at your house.

    But I think you should get eachother a little something to open at his family’s gathering.  Then you can still have presents under your tree for christmas morning.


    My family also always did the one at a time, it made it a little more special to me and then I got to see what my sisters got as well.  But since my sisters are close in age they sometimes got the same thing so then they would open them together.

    Post # 16
    463 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    i don’t think its rude. you’ll still have gifts to open at your inlaws from your inlaws or siblings and the same goes for them. 

    We are celebrating our first christmas together also and plan on opening our gifts for each other at our house and bringing everyone else’s gifts to my inlaws.

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