(Closed) Will it be okay to not do a first dance?

posted 6 years ago in Traditions
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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Hayls:  I think it’s fine to forgo the first dance. It’s not something that I personally look forward to as a guest. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t hate first dances, but it’s just not something that I get excited about.

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

We didn’t do a first dance. Just announce the dancfloor is “open” and invite people to join you on the dancefloor.

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Worker bee

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Hayls:  It is not going to mean the end of your marriage. 

If you don’t want to, then don’t. As PP said, it is not my favorite part of the evening as a guest. I just typically go to the bar then.

 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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Hayls:  Just consider if YOU are really ok with skipping it. You said YOU wanted to do dance lessons and do something special. Was it just to have a highlight moment? Is HE ok with skipping the first dance?

Maybe just compromise with a short, somewhat fun song that your husband can just do a few spins and its laid back and easy, without being choreographed?

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

You could invite all of the married couples, your bridal party, or all couples to join you on the dance floor for your ‘first dance’.  Then you aren’t alone ๐Ÿ™‚  We started dance lessons to do a choreographed dance and then one day found out our dance teacer was arrested.  There was no way we were getting our money back so no more dance lessons for us.  I was disappointed but we just had the DJ cut the song after the first chorus so it was short and sweet ๐Ÿ™‚

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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2014

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Hayls:  Here’s what we did and it really seemed to work! We had our DJ invite all of our guests to surround the dance floor prior to the bridal party entrance. He then announced the bridal party and had some upbeat dance music playing so that when they entered, they just started dancing once they got to the dance floor. When he announced us, we went straight to the dance floor in the middle of our best friends all dancing. The DJ then invited everyone else to join in and it really helped set the tone of the wedding (fun!). It takes a little coordinating with the bridal party and DJ but some of my favorite pictures/video is from our “first dance/entrance dance party”!! 

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Of course it is not necessary. The only things necessary at a wedding are 2 people getting married, an officiant, witnesses, and vows. ๐Ÿ˜‰

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Buzzing bee

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Hayls:  I think that the first dance is not necessary and feel that skipping it would be fine. Do what will make you happiest. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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Hayls:  then by all means skip it! We’re doing one because we’re pretty traditional, but we’re also doing something you might enjoy if you don’t like the idea of everyone watching (plus it makes good sense logistically!)

At the end of the reception, the DJ will get people to start moving outside for our sendoff/grand exit. When the space is cleared, my new husband and I get to have one last dance in an empty venue while everyone gets ready. The photographer will get a few shots and we can sort of breathe before our exit. 

To me, there aren’t enough parts of the wedding day that let the bride and groom take a moment with each other so we purposely built those into our day. Even if everyone’s watching during the first dance, I like that he and I will be able to whisper and have a conversation and moment that’s ours. 

Maybe a last dance is when you and your Fiance can pick a song that means something and dance, or even just stand and hold hands and have a special moment. But again, if you really want to skip it, its completely your decision!

  • This reply was modified 6 years, 3 months ago by TXbride2015.
  • This reply was modified 6 years, 3 months ago by TXbride2015.
Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Of course!  My Fiance couldn’t dance to save his life!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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Hayls:  No it you and your fiance wedding. You do not need to do a first dance if you don’t want too. My fiance and I are doing a first dance but we are not dong a father/daugher dance or mother/son dance. 

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Wannabee
  • Wedding: December 2028

Ask your band to invite everyone on to the dancefloor with you after the first ten minutes of the first dance – then you get the emotional effect and a quick photo opportunity but you don’t have to worry about actually dancing while people watch. Will take the stress and worry away for you.

LeFunk! Wedding Band and Party Band

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