Post # 1
Ok so I am officially going crazy!
We were out of state visiting my family and someone told me that someone I knew from high school owned a jewlery store. We had already looked at rings once or twice and both experiences ended badly because of pushy sales people. So we both thought it would be a great idea to go and look at this persons jewelery store that I knew.
We went there and told him what we wanted and he told us to come back in two days to see what he had created for us. We went back and it was PERFECT! I love it! So we bought it. Since we lived out of state we didn’t have to pay sales tax either!
So now it has been sitting on our bookshelf in the box for almost 2 months. OMG I can’t take it. We have even started making loose wedding plans (with his help).
There has been multiple occasions in the last 2 months that he probably should have done it but he hasn’t. I don’t want to push it and ruin in but I also am getting really annoyed. This week at Thanksgiving his dad pulled him aside and asked when he was proposing and supposedly he told him a date. I am afraid that he hasn’t even thought about a date yet.
Well Christmas is my favorite time of year and I really really hope that if I have waited this long since we got the ring that it happens somewhere at Christmas!
*sometimes I even put it on when he is at work. 🙂
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
I think you should make him hide it so it’s out of your sight and hopefully a little bit out of your mind…It’s super-hard not to focus on the ring and the proposal but it’s definitely coming soon! Most of us have gone through this at some point before getting engaged and it’s sooooo frustrating but it’s all worth it when he does propose, bc it will really be an incredible moment…So hang in there, hide that ring somewhere, vent to weddingbee and bask in the knowledge that you’re getting engaged SOON!!!!
Bonus: you already know what the ring looks like and how much you love it! The ring can be a huge source of stress for some people, so at least you don’t have to worry about that!
Post # 4
I’m with trailmix. I think I’d ask him to hide the ring away somewhere…that way it’s not a constant reminder. And besides, wouldn’t you realize something was up the day it WASN’T sitting there on the shelf anymore?? That would totally ruin his surprise!
Congrats, though. Glad to hear it is coming soon and that you were able to be a part of the ring buying process. My bf and I did the same thing, and I’m still anxiously awaiting its arrival too, but I wouldnt have it any other way. I love knowing that I will end up with a ring I adore that we picked out together!!
Post # 5
I agree that it would be good to have him hide the box somewhere! And it will happen, don’t worry! My guy waited a while after we got the ring together too, and I was getting so anxious and started to get a little frustrated but it turned out that he just really wanted to craft the perfect proposal to make me happy and was taking all this time to plan something elaborate out (even though in the end it was a totally impromptu thing, after all that) and I bet your guy is doing something similar. I think a lot of men get so nervous about making the proposal perfect that they don’t realize we’d rather just get the show on the road.
Post # 6
Is nobody else’s reaction what mine would be, which is to uh, just start wearing it? I mean, he put it out on the bookshelf instead of hiding it – of course you’re going to know when he’s going to ask, since the box will disappear, so why is he doing that? It is obviously because he wants you to just start wearing the ring around :).
Alright, that probably isn’t true. But I think you can nudge the process along by asking him to hide it, because that will remind him that it’s there, and that it’s bothering you. My Fiance had the ring somewhere in the house, but it was out of sight and out of mind and that made it easier to get off my mind.
Also, don’t count on the proposal being perfect just because he’s waiting. Hopefully he will, but he might do what Mr. Mary Jane did and just ask you at home while you’re wearing sweatpants. Just don’t want you to be disappointed.
Post # 7
word – he needs to put away or give it to you like yesterday! that’s sooo unfair. i’d threaten him and be like, i’m just going to start wearing it whether you officially give it to me or not!
Post # 8
Make him hide it! It will make it so much easier for you not to be able to see it! I know that my SO has a ring, or has it coming, (being sized!!!) but he told me that we wouldn’t get engaged until like January! Christmas is my favorite too, so I’m hoping, but I don’t want to get to excited because if it doesn’t happen I’ll be so bummed! So try to stay possitive and just focus on Christmas and presents (for others!) and the time will fly by!!!! At least you know he has a ring 😉
Post # 9
Ok, so I told him to hide it which he agreed to do. Of course days later it is still there on the bookshelf. Ughh
I read somewhere on this message board how to take a picture of your engagment ring. I could never do it without it coming out blurry.
So, I decided to try the camera settings to see if it worked. My SO walked in as I was in full out photo shoot mode and asked me what I was doing with a laugh. So I told him I was trying the camera settting to see if I could take a good picture of it. He then said “you do realize you will be wearing that soon and then you can just show it to people”
That made me feel a little better. Plus, since we started dating I told him that I wanted to get married at Christmas time. Which although that is really what I want I am kicking myself for saying that because that is probably why he is waiting. So I think it is going to be coming up at Christmas time! I know I will be happy he waited till Christmas in the long run but for the time being it SUCKS!!
I Love my ring… I can’t wait to wear it everyday!
Post # 10
oh my at least you guys purchased the ring… My boyfriend and i been together for 3 years and am waiting patiently and anxiously for this proposal… We spoke about it on many occasion.. went window shopping for the ring… he knows my size, shape of stone carat design everything.. but he hasnt asked yet.. My cousin spoke to him and she said that he said he wants it to be a suprise when its off my mind he will propose.
OMG.. its driving me crazy… Christmas is my favorite time of the year.. and him, his family and i we all going to their home in Atlanta for christmas and am so hoping and PRAYING he propose for christma…. lol all you have to do is keep optimistic it will come .. Good luck all!!!!!!!!!!!!!