(Closed) Will my bridesmaids hate me for wanting to do long dresses?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
662 posts
Busy bee

What if you made them get a long dress and then offered to get the dress tailored after the wedding into a short dress that they could wear again if they wanted that?  I doubt it would cost all that much, it’s just a hem. 

Post # 4
10714 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I had my girls in long dresses and they just kept telling me how happy they were I didn’t ask them to wear short dresses. The dresses I had them buy were $89 so it wasn’t a terrible price and I don’t think many people wear short bridesmaids dresses again either. If I were a bridesmaid I’d prefer long over short too. I think they’ll be okay with it. =)

Post # 5
2269 posts
Buzzing bee

If you were buying it, I’d wear whatever you picked.

But, you’re having them buy it. To me, asking a friend to buy a long, formal dress is not ok. Will she ever wear it again? Not likely. She will never recoup what she spent. I personally would resent having to spend money on a dress I’ll only wear once. I intend to do that just one time; for my own wedding.

I suggest you find some dresses they will be able to wear again.

Post # 7
2622 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

No, I wouldnt care.

In reality short or long most dresses are not worn again so the length of the dress shouldnt make a difference.

It can be more expensive to alter since its less forgiving on length.

Post # 8
379 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

My girls will be wearing long dresses even though it’s a July wedding because I love the way they look and I haven’t heard one negative thing from them, but I’m almost certain I have the best bridesmaids EVER! It does help that my aunt has offered to tailor any of their dresses after the wedding into short ones, but it’s not something any of us will be spending money on. Their dresses will be around $160 and they’ve all been pretty great about it. I thought my cousin (MOH) might have a little resentment toward it because she is 5’4″ and wanted to wear high heels for the wedding (I’m 6’3″ and she wanted the gap to be a little less! Haha) and flats for the reception, but we figured we could add hooks and eyes to the sides of the dress so once the dancing starts, she can hook it up and not have to worry about tripping. Good luck with your girls!

Post # 9
46607 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Not all long dresses are outrageously expensive. Keep your BM’s budget in mind when choosing a dress and it will make it easier for them to buy into your vision.

If the dresses they can try on locally are too expensive, you can find a less expensive version to order after you know what styles work best for them.

Post # 10
790 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

In every wedding I’ve been in as a bridesmaid (5) I wore a long dress. I think my bridesmaid days are in the past now but if I were asked again I wouldn’t be surprised or disappointed to find out that the bride wanted us to wear long dresses. 

Post # 11
6830 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

My Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses were long and only were $99.00 and my BM’s were so glad to be wearing long dresses we are all older and hate short dresses. 

Post # 12
447 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

@delovely13:  Honestly, the chances of anyone wearing a bridesmaid dress again – long or short – are really slim, so don’t worry about that being a factor.  But do be on the lookout for deals and pay attention to prices and potential alteration costs (a chiffon dress with 3 layers will cost a lot more to alter than a dress with just 1).

Post # 13
1839 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

depends on how much it costs.  also, i doubt anyone really wears their bridesmaids dress again after a wedding whether it’s long or short

Post # 14
3697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

As long as it’s not a $300 long dress vs a $67 short dress, I wouldn’t sweat it.  My ‘maid wore a long dress (that I bought her) and she had zero say in the length.  I think long dresses are more formal and always look classy and elegant. 

Post # 15
1576 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Pros to long dresses:

-I’m probably not going to wear it again anyway. Unless you were going to let me pick it out in the first place

-I don’t have to worry about you picking a dress that’s to short for my taste

-I don’t have to worry about how my legs look and should I try to tan and should I try to moisturize my knees for a month beforehand. Etc.

-The bride will probably be less picky about shoes since they will barely be seen. Here I came, DSW clearance rack!


Post # 16
1548 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I wore long dresses for every wedding i’ve ever been in. Long dresses are more formal and elegant, I don’t think your bridesmaids will have a problem with it. 

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