Post # 1
So, I would very much like to do long dresses for my BMs. Because of the time of year, and because we would like our wedding to be fairly formal. I have a fairly good fashion sense and the girls already love the color choice, So I know that the dress itself will be nice, which is half the battle. But I also know that long dresses cost more on average, and are less likely to be worn again (even if it’s a great style), and that’s not a great combination.
I’m going shopping with them for the first time in a few weeks, and I just want to know if I should be prepared for some dissapointment when I tell them I would like long dresses. (so far my Maid/Matron of Honor is the only one that knows the kind of thing I want, and she has no problem with it).
I know my girls, and I know they will put a smile on and do what I would like, but I also know that it is expensive to be a bridesmaid, and don’t want them to feel like they’re wasting money on a dress that they will never wear again.
would you be dissapointed if you’re friend wanted you to wear a long dress? Is there a long style that you have had that you really loved?
Post # 3
What if you made them get a long dress and then offered to get the dress tailored after the wedding into a short dress that they could wear again if they wanted that? I doubt it would cost all that much, it’s just a hem.
Post # 4
I had my girls in long dresses and they just kept telling me how happy they were I didn’t ask them to wear short dresses. The dresses I had them buy were $89 so it wasn’t a terrible price and I don’t think many people wear short bridesmaids dresses again either. If I were a bridesmaid I’d prefer long over short too. I think they’ll be okay with it. =)
Post # 5
If you were buying it, I’d wear whatever you picked.
But, you’re having them buy it. To me, asking a friend to buy a long, formal dress is not ok. Will she ever wear it again? Not likely. She will never recoup what she spent. I personally would resent having to spend money on a dress I’ll only wear once. I intend to do that just one time; for my own wedding.
I suggest you find some dresses they will be able to wear again.
Post # 6
@Bunny82: That’s a good idea Bunny.
Post # 7
No, I wouldnt care.
In reality short or long most dresses are not worn again so the length of the dress shouldnt make a difference.
It can be more expensive to alter since its less forgiving on length.
Post # 8
My girls will be wearing long dresses even though it’s a July wedding because I love the way they look and I haven’t heard one negative thing from them, but I’m almost certain I have the best bridesmaids EVER! It does help that my aunt has offered to tailor any of their dresses after the wedding into short ones, but it’s not something any of us will be spending money on. Their dresses will be around $160 and they’ve all been pretty great about it. I thought my cousin (MOH) might have a little resentment toward it because she is 5’4″ and wanted to wear high heels for the wedding (I’m 6’3″ and she wanted the gap to be a little less! Haha) and flats for the reception, but we figured we could add hooks and eyes to the sides of the dress so once the dancing starts, she can hook it up and not have to worry about tripping. Good luck with your girls!
Post # 9
Not all long dresses are outrageously expensive. Keep your BM’s budget in mind when choosing a dress and it will make it easier for them to buy into your vision.
If the dresses they can try on locally are too expensive, you can find a less expensive version to order after you know what styles work best for them.
Post # 10
In every wedding I’ve been in as a bridesmaid (5) I wore a long dress. I think my bridesmaid days are in the past now but if I were asked again I wouldn’t be surprised or disappointed to find out that the bride wanted us to wear long dresses.
Post # 11
My Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses were long and only were $99.00 and my BM’s were so glad to be wearing long dresses we are all older and hate short dresses.
Post # 12
@delovely13: Honestly, the chances of anyone wearing a bridesmaid dress again – long or short – are really slim, so don’t worry about that being a factor. But do be on the lookout for deals and pay attention to prices and potential alteration costs (a chiffon dress with 3 layers will cost a lot more to alter than a dress with just 1).
Post # 13
depends on how much it costs. also, i doubt anyone really wears their bridesmaids dress again after a wedding whether it’s long or short
Post # 14
As long as it’s not a $300 long dress vs a $67 short dress, I wouldn’t sweat it. My ‘maid wore a long dress (that I bought her) and she had zero say in the length. I think long dresses are more formal and always look classy and elegant.
Post # 15
Pros to long dresses:
-I’m probably not going to wear it again anyway. Unless you were going to let me pick it out in the first place
-I don’t have to worry about you picking a dress that’s to short for my taste
-I don’t have to worry about how my legs look and should I try to tan and should I try to moisturize my knees for a month beforehand. Etc.
-The bride will probably be less picky about shoes since they will barely be seen. Here I came, DSW clearance rack!
Post # 16
I wore long dresses for every wedding i’ve ever been in. Long dresses are more formal and elegant, I don’t think your bridesmaids will have a problem with it.