- takemetothebeach
- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2016
Wow, you’ve been given some really good advice, and you’re choosing to completely ignore it because it’s not what you wanted to hear. I think you’ve got some growing up to do. Good luckZ
Wow, you’ve been given some really good advice, and you’re choosing to completely ignore it because it’s not what you wanted to hear. I think you’ve got some growing up to do. Good luckZ
You’re just upset that the majority of replies are basically telling you the same thing – that you can’t get upset when people are not able to come to your destination wedding.
A trip to Greece is not the same as hopping a flight to an all inclusive in Mexico. Mexico is cheap, Greece is expensive. You talk about how your future family owns hotels, that’s great, but that the least of your guests problems.
I just looked up flights to Greece. The cheapest one is $1800…by the time you add taxes that’s going to be AT LEAST $2000 per person. That means for my DH and I to come to your wedding we’d pay *minimum* $4,000 just in airfare. That’s before you factor in :
Your wedding is 1.5 years away- ever consider that some of your friends might be saving up for their own wedding/house/car/puppy/vacation/whatever in that timeframe?
September is one of the most expensive months to go to Greece. And while Greece is cheaper now than in the last 20 years, it’s still stupidly expensive to get there. I tried to plan my honeymoon there and from NYC I still had to connect… a direct flight was something like $4000 pp in COACH. Nope.
So lots of people you know have gotten married in Europe…did you attend all of those weddings? Did ALL of their friends attend?
I thought about having my wedding in Spain, where my family is from. it’d have been way cheaper for me since my family would have paid for everything. I didn’t because I knew very few people would be able to make it, and those who *had* to go, like DHs family, would be burdened financially by the cost.
it’s great you want to get married in Greece, and I’m sure it will be lovely, but it’s no one’s responsibility but your own to attend.
pay for your sister and friends and you will greatly increase the likelihood they attend. his family owns hotels, so make their rooms free, at least!
Wow wow wow. I can afford to go to Greece but I still wouldn’t go for a friend’s wedding! I want to spend my holidays enjoying myself and doing what I want, not being burdened by a wedding. And if my friend was engaged for 3 months and was this far into bridezilla territory, I probably wouldn’t attend her local wedding either.
I believe that she made those statements because she is hurt, shocked and sad. I’m sure after a few days and the shock wears off, she’ll remember what’s important in the grand scheme of things.
mybigfatgreek : I too am having a destination wedding in Greece. The whole point was to limit the number of guests. My fiance and I realized there was a higher chance of people not coming to Greece for our wedding than if we had one locally. We asked if we would be okay getting married in Greece even if literally no one else showed up and we totally were. I think that is the attitude you need to have if you want a destination wedding that is that expensive. Also, I didn’t go to my brother’s destination wedding because I was saving for my own and a house and getting time off was too difficult.
I have a huge problem with destination weddings. You want me to go on a vacation to a place I didn’t pick. You want me to use my vacation time from work, my money and everything to spend it on you. I don’t see how brides don’t get this. You aren’t asking them to drive 2 hours out of time. This is a huge deal that involves passports and everything! If you want to go to Greece, by all means do so, but just the two of you go.
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