(Closed) will my girls not be there ?

posted 4 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 46
116 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Wow, you’ve been given some really good advice, and you’re choosing to completely ignore it because it’s not what you wanted to hear. I think you’ve got some growing up to do. Good luckZ

Post # 47
7512 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

You’re just upset that the majority of replies are basically telling you the same thing – that you can’t get upset when people are not able to come to your destination wedding.

A trip to Greece is not the same as hopping a flight to an all inclusive in Mexico. Mexico is cheap, Greece is expensive. You talk about how your future family owns hotels, that’s great, but that the least of your guests problems.

I just looked up flights to Greece. The cheapest one is $1800…by the time you add taxes that’s going to be AT LEAST $2000 per person. That means for my DH and I to come to your wedding we’d pay *minimum* $4,000 just in airfare. That’s before you factor in :

  • Taking the time off work (not everyone gets paid vacation days). I’m self employeed which means I’m having to block out days I could be booking clients and making money.
  • Gas to airport (I’m 2 hours away from the closest one) & Airport parking ($20/day)
  • Meals during both travel days – it would take 3 flights for me to get to Greece. That means breakfast, lunch, & dinner in an airport for two people….each way. Airport food is not cheap.
  • Transportation upon my arrival in greece.
  • All meals and activies while there.
  • Hotel….even if you’re giving your guests a discount I can be willing to be it would still be a few hundred each night. Anyone coming all the way to Greece isn’t going to do it in just a weekend.
Post # 48
1156 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Damn you’re entitled as hell

Post # 49
1411 posts
Bumble bee

Your wedding is 1.5 years away- ever consider that some of your friends might be saving up for their own wedding/house/car/puppy/vacation/whatever in that timeframe?

September is one of the most expensive months to go to Greece. And while Greece is cheaper now than in the last 20 years, it’s still stupidly expensive to get there. I tried to plan my honeymoon there and from NYC I still had to connect… a direct flight was something like $4000 pp in COACH. Nope. 

So lots of people you know have gotten married in Europe…did you attend all of those weddings? Did ALL of their friends attend? 

Post # 50
9388 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

I thought about having my wedding in Spain, where my family is from. it’d have been way cheaper for me since my family would have paid for everything. I didn’t because I knew very few people would be able to make it, and those who *had* to go, like DHs family, would be burdened financially by the cost.

it’s great you want to get married in Greece, and I’m sure it will be lovely, but it’s no one’s responsibility but your own to attend.

pay for your sister and friends and you will greatly increase the likelihood they attend. his family owns hotels, so make their rooms free, at least!

Post # 51
16 posts
  • Wedding: April 2017

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mybigfatgreek :  we just got back from ours and my parents didn’t go.  When we made the decision to plan a destination away from home for most-we had to decide we were ok if litterrally no one joined us.  That’s the only way we made it through he process without stressing over it.  My mom literally came up with every excuse you could imagine including that the location just wasn’t where she wanted to go.  We just found other ways to include folks from home like sky ping on the wedding day.  Be patient-hang in there-while some may not go, you may be surprised by some of the people that end up going.  

Post # 52
2120 posts
Buzzing bee

Wow wow wow. I can afford to go to Greece but I still wouldn’t go for a friend’s wedding! I want to spend my holidays enjoying myself and doing what I want, not being burdened by a wedding. And if my friend was engaged for 3 months and was this far into bridezilla territory, I probably wouldn’t attend her local wedding either. 


Post # 53
105 posts
Blushing bee

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redmango :  I said for lack of a better word. This is my point, don’t jump down my throat because I basically presented the same opinion as  a everyone else in a different way to OP. It’s  all about packaging. I never said she should have gotten the answer she wanted – I’m saying bees can be very harsh. I agree and understand that she made some statements that are unfair and maybe even selfish. But Let’s not forget shes probably feeling quite emotional and disappointed, I understand we don’t always think 100% logically when feeling that way.

I believe that she made those statements because she is hurt, shocked and sad. I’m sure after a few days and the shock wears off, she’ll remember what’s important in the grand scheme of things.

Post # 54
1640 posts
Bumble bee

mybigfatgreek : I too am having a destination wedding in Greece. The whole point was to limit the number of guests. My fiance and I realized there was a higher chance of people not coming to Greece for our wedding than if we had one locally. We asked if we would be okay getting married in Greece even if literally no one else showed up and we totally were. I think that is the attitude you need to have if you want a destination wedding that is that expensive. Also, I didn’t go to my brother’s destination wedding because I was saving for my own and a house and getting time off was too difficult.

Post # 55
35 posts

I have a huge problem with destination weddings. You want me to go on a vacation to a place I didn’t pick. You want me to use my vacation time from work, my money and everything to spend it on you. I don’t see how brides don’t get this. You aren’t asking them to drive 2 hours out of time. This is a huge deal that involves passports and everything! If you want to go to Greece, by all means do so, but just the two of you go.

Post # 56
216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

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mybigfatgreek :  well we are also multicultural couple. And since my parents cant afford flying to europe, i and Fiance decided to have two reception so both family can celebrate with us. In europe i will be completely alone with no parents or family whatsoever. I will even have to give myself away during the ceremony. I was a bit scared of walking the aisle alone but it is what it is. I guess you can try to have two receptionbif possible. Ours, for example will be almost 7months apart so we have a bit more time to save up some more. And because of this we will have to keep the guests number small in order to be able to afford two receptions and flight tickets. Not trying to tell you what to do but this can be an idea of what you can organize to please both your and your Fiance family.

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