Will my older dog ever adjust to my puppy? (long)

posted 7 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

This is pretty normal. I work in Rescue and we always tell people to give it 2-3 weeks for the dog to adjust and for current dogs in the house to get use to the new addition as well. I know its really hard, but your yorkie will get use to the new friend. I deal with this pretty often as I foster dogs. Its hard seeing my personal dogs get upset or not take to a new foster, but within time they do and all is well. I would love to say that my personal dogs are tolerant of me bringing home and coming and leaving with other dogs that we foster, but its not that simple. There is ALWAYS that time period where they just need time to get use to e/o. I feel bad for my furbabies at times, but love them even more for there tolerance pr attempt of tolerance. We have 4 of our own dogs, and take in 2-3 fosters. Some fosters I have for months, some I have for weeks. Its never a normal schedule of when they will come and go, and i deal with this “time of adjustment” everytime. You will get there! ; )

Just keep them both engaged, give both equal attention and dont allow either of them to get possesive of you. Thats where it can get ugly. But thats another topic in itself.

Best of luck!

Post # 5
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We have a 15 year old schnauzer and Darling Husband and I adopted a puppy in April.  Our 15 year old wanted nothing to do with the pup at first.  He’d leave the room, go upstairs and generally avoid him (& us, too!).  It’s been four months now and they’re fine with each other.  The puppy has acutally put bounce back in our senior guy’s step.  I say they’re fine with each other because the don’t fight but they don’t really play either.  The pup tends to ignore our older dog because he learned early on to leave him alone.  He does try to play once in awhile and our older dog will oblige but after awhile, our older one gives the growl or bark and the baby backs off and finds something else to do.  

One thing that the puppy’s breeder told to do was to always protect the senior dog.  If the puppy is harassing the older dog, pull the puppy off and crate it or occupy it with something else.  If the pup is not leaving your yorkie alone, distract it so your older guy can get some peace.  Also, make sure to have some place in the hosue that your older guy can escape, somewhere that the puppy isn’t allowed.  Our 15 year old is allowed in our bedroom but the puppy isn’t so he often goes in there to nap in peace.  It sounds like you’re doing a good job giving your 7 year old more attention and you can try using a clicker to teach your yorkie that the puppy is good.  We spent several days clicking and treating our 15 year old anytime the puppy came near him.  We sometimes still do this just to reinforce that the puppy means good things.  Also, we let them work their issues out which involved a lot of butt sniffing and growling and barking from our older guy but unless it looked really aggressive, we let them be.  They now coexist happily and there’s lots of tail wagging when they see each other.  They don’t cuddle together or play together but they do live together peacefully.  

Sounds like you’re doing the right things so just give it some time.  =)  

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Two weeks seems to be the magic answer. I lived with my brother and his dog when I got my first puppy and my brother’s dog hated the puppy. Used to growl at her and even peed on her one night. Within two weeks they became best friends and now still get so excited when they see each other. When Darling Husband and I got out second dog my first dog got so sad that we thought we made a huge mistake. But now they are inseperatable and never like to leave each others sides and this took about two weeks. So just give it time, they will work it out themselves.

Post # 6
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Wannabee

lindz629:  I’m actually dealing with the same issue our male yorkie is 5 and we brought home a tea cup female yorkie yesterday morning. He’s also ignoring her and won’t come near me but I think in a week or two they get used of them. At least I hope. 

Post # 7
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I have a 3 yr old male Yorkie. 8 months ago, we brought home a 8 week old female Yorkie.  My oder one became reclusive like you said, seemed to disconnect completely from family life if she was nearby.  He would not allow her to come within 2 feet of him even on the couch. This lasted about a month, and even now he does not allow her to cuddle with him except on rare occasions. He plays with her sometimes, but his patience wears thin quickly. This is all fine with me except for the younger pup is desperate to cuddle with him. So all day and all night, she moves to his spot, and he moves to a new spot… On, and, on, and on. Even when they sleep at night. I say all of this to remind even myself that having dogs is not always going to go according to plan.  As long as they both seem happy and healthy, I guess we can just call it a difference in personalities. 6 months in, I thought it would change, and it still can, I suppose. By now I’m sure your pups are best friends!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: South Lodge. 2nd of Dec 2017

We now have two cockerpoos Oscar is six, Ruby roo is eleven months, Ruby adores Oscar, Oscar can’t stand Ruby, he seems quite content with his little life, but he grumbles loads at her and point blank refuses to let her get into bed with him, despite Ruby’s belly groviling.  They do occasionally play with a toy together, but it is only usually if a human is in the middle enabling fair play.  after weeks of thinking what have we done we have ruined his life, we took comfort at the local park, when Ruby was jumped by a really big Doberman, Oscar jumped in to defend her, guess thats siblings for you. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

That is definitely normal and I wouldn’t be too worried at this early stage! We had a reversed scenario in that we had a 1 year old and brought a 5 year old into the mix. For at least the first month, the younger dog’s nose was out of joint. She peed in the house a few times, would leave the room if new dog entered, couldn’t eat her food in the same room as him. At the time, I thought “what have I done?” because she seemed so unhappy. 

Fast forward five years and they are great friends. They still have little tiffs and some territorial disputes, she’ll get upset if he is even sitting near her favourite toys, but they love each other. We had evidence of that firsthand when each dog had health issues and hospitalization. The dog that was left at home absolutely pined for the other one, stopped eating and was really depressed, and we knew how much they loved and relied on each other. It just took a long time for their relationship to develop – I would say it was a month before they tolerated each other, about three months before they started to enjoy each others’ company, and about six months before they really loved each other. 

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

It took my beloved 15-year-old Lhasa Apso, who is notoriously unfriendly towards other dogs, six months or more to adjust to our two Shih-Tzu puppies. It literally happened overnight – we were getting very concerned as he had started to be aggressive towards them (biting, chasing). Then one morning we got up and he was leaned up against the kitchen door (where they slept) and from that point on they are almost inseparable.

Give it lots of time and patience. We were prepared to keep them separated for as long as necessary, but we are very grateful that we can leave them together unsupervised now!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I hope the best for you.

While I am sure there is just an adjustment period and your dogs will be fine, I do just want to note that the rescue shelter should have informed you…it’s not generally considered a good idea to get a puppy while you have an older dog, even if they still socialize well with other dogs. 

Post # 12
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: March 2016

We got my male 3yr old yorkie a female pup 2 days ago he will not sleep with me now even though her bed is in the floor, he seems to like her but I’ve been having to sleep on the couch with him, will he ever sleep with me again I’ve cried for 2 days now!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think you guys will be ok, just may need a little longer to adjust. I currently have an 18 year old male dog whom I’ve had for 15 years. About three years ago we decided to get 2 more dogs (1 male, 1 female) who were about a year old. We have also have had two babies during this time and he has adjusted very well. I think he loves his current life! Not bad for a dog who lived with just me during my single days to a family of 4 with two other pooches. I do think it was a very smart choice to get a female dog in your situation. Hope it works out well for you!

Post # 14
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: July 2016

What happens when introducing a new dog has caused your old dog to hate you!  My Buddy was always my shadow. Now he won’t let me touch him or hold him. He runs from me and avoids the puppy like she has the plague. 

Post # 15
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Helper bee

Very normal we just introduced a new puppy to our pack a 2 weeks tomorrow. We have a male husky and a female mix not really sure what she is. We brought Toby a malamute mix puppy home they were not too accepting for a few days just working out the pecking order and now they love him. We just let them do there thing ( supervised) they did act aggtessive and would nip at him but thats how dogs teach the puppy how to behave. They never hurt him. Now they are functioning well and eating out of the same bowl and playing lots of playing. Some dogs take longer maybe a few weeks. But I would not worry its very rare for dogs to welcome a new puppy with open arms.

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