Post # 1
So our venue cuts off children’s meals at 11. We have a 12 1/2 year old coming but she will want to eat the children’s food menu items instead of the adult menu. Any idea how detailed the venues are (ours is at a hotel)? We also have a young looking 22/23 year old who doesn’t drink alcohol-any chance we could count them as under 21?
not that I want to cheat the venue but if the young girl wants a kids meal etc…thoughts?
Post # 3
I’ve never been to a venue who checked ids, nor gave anyone a problem about their ages [unless it was over alcohol], and you are paying them for their service. I’m sure you could squeeze it in.. or if you’re not really sure, just ask them outright, or have a friend call to ask questions. Usually they will work with you.
Post # 4
For the 12 year old I think you can do the kids meal. It’d be different if she was 14 or something, but I think you’re still safe there. With the 22 year old I think they still need to count as 21+. You will have other adults that are over 21 that won’t be drinking I’m sure. You wouln’t count every designated driver as under 21, so I don’t think the 22 year old should be any different. I say that just because with that one if the venue did find out it would look more like you were trying to cheat them, as opposed to the 12 year old who just wants kid food which is very innocent request.
Post # 5
@Corazon1220: When I was 19 I politely asked for a kids meal at a wedding (the adult options were all meat, which I don’t do), and the waiter accomodated me. He served the kids first to make sure they were covered.
If you tell the place 5 kids, I’m sure they’ll prepare enough for 5-6 kids meals… and they’re not gonna check IDs or ask questions.
Post # 6
I mean, I know I didn’t even get a school ID until high school. I don’t think they’ll notice, counting the 12 yo
Post # 7
I don’t think they will care if anyone over 11 orders from the childrens menu, as long as they are given a good head count and have enough food.
As for the 22 year old who does not drink – some venues will allow you to not count adults in the open bar fee, if they do not drink for religious reasons. If they are just not a big drinker, unfortunately I do think you will end up paying for them…if they are old enough then who knows, maybe your wedding night will be the night they cut loose and have three glasses of wine. This is exactly what the venue is afriad of when people say “oh but 10 of our guests don’t drink”. Unless they are LDS, muslim, another alcohol free religion, they will expect that you foot the bill.
Post # 8
OO I see your dilemna……I have not thought of this yet for my wedding but wow! I would say you should be fine with the kids meal, just say she is 11. But, I agree with everyone else mostly on the 22-23 year who does not drink. Venues probably get this questions a lot though so its worth it to just ask….thats just my oppinion.