Post # 1
I’m really not sure where to put this, but I’m getting a little worried. A few friends of mine are getting married over the next little while/have recently gotten married and it seems like all they do is DIY. The invitations, the favours, the centrepieces, the programs, hell one of my friends is even making her own dress! I come on Weddingbee too and see all of you ladies doing a ton of DIY, and it makes me feel like if I don’t do it, that my wedding will just suck.
It’s not even that I don’t want to DIY, I’d love to do it. But I have no idea where to start, and I’m not even sure I’d have time, what with working full time and going to school part time. I am not creative so I don’t even know what to do. Plus I don’t have any DIY supplies, and I worry that buying everything I would need would get so expensive! And since I’ve never done anything like that, I’m worried that whatever I make would end up looking amateurish and awful.
I’d hate to have a totally impersonal wedding, but at the same time, I do want everything to look perfect. Am I just overthinking things or if I don’t do any DIY will people even notice? Have any other brides not done any crafty things for their weddings?
Post # 3
You wedding will be personal as it’s yours!
If you aren’t into DIY that don’t do it. It doesn’t make you any less of a bride. If you really want to give it a go, You could make card to thank your bridesmaids.
You could ask creative family and friend to help you too.
Post # 4
I agree with the previous answer. I only did 1 DIY (programms) and the rest i left in the hands of way more capable and talented people 🙂
Post # 5
I am doing lots of diy for budget reasons, but by no means will yours suck if you dont!! If anything, i am worried mine will look cheap because i AM doing diy. lol. Your wedding will be perfect, dont worry 🙂
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
You will be a lot less stressed without the DIY! It doesn’t sound like craftiness is where you talents lay, so I agree with PP- let someone else take care of it! 🙂
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2013 - B&B
@rebwana: That made my morning!!!!!
I agree with PP’s. If DIY isn’t your thing, it really might not turn out how you wanted and then it’s not actually YOU for your wedding! I am doing so much DIY because I did go to college for a creative, design centered degree, and I need to save money. But DIY does NOT always mean you save!
Your wedding can still be personal! Have things that are meaningful to you and your Fiance (and I’m sure there are things that fit you two without you having to make them) and it will be your special day 🙂
Post # 8
Lol of course not! I DIY’ed next to nothing and my wedding rocked 🙂
Post # 9
Your wedding won’t be terrible without DIY although i would budget a bit higher for those personal touches that you feel are important, so that you can buy them instead of making them. What’s important to you is going to be different than to me or any other bride; don’t let the posts here on the ‘bee lure you into spending a lot of time, effort or money on the things that truly do not matter to you, and focus on what’s important to you and your guests.
To give you some perspective, here’s what we’re doing for some of the more common DIY projects:
-Invites: vistaprint, baby, and we did very plain invites, online RSVP only, no inserts, and all the relevant info on our website (it would never fly if our guests weren’t tech-savvy, but fortunately they all are)
-Centerpeices: bought some hand-painted flowerpots on Etsy; 5 per table, some filled with live plants (transfering the plants from their Home Depot trays to the pots will be about as close to DIY as we get), some with candies; we are going to place them on pretty plates from World Market, and we’re pre-setting them, one box per table, all the boxes going to the caterer who will set them out
-Favors: Not doing these. Guests will be encouraged to take the flowerpots home but my guests would much rather have an open bar and an unstressed bride than 5 little silly almonds in a bag and me with my hair falling out
-Flowers: having a friend of my sister’s do them for us (she is a retired florist) but if we’d not found her, we were going to do Trader Joes or Whole Foods and take their premade bunches and just tie the ends
For personal touches on the tabletops we are setting out “icebreaker” type cards to get the conversations started (bought online for arund $50 for 200 or 300 cards) and we’re having plain notecards printed (also vistaprint) for guests to write us notes that will go into our winebox 🙂
Post # 10
DIY is NOT my thing. Our wedding is going to have lots of personal touches anyway.
It doesn’t have to be handmade to be personal.
Post # 11
Um yeah there will be nothing handmade at my wedding. I do not have the time nor patience and I also outsource just about everything I can in my day to day life so my wedding is no different. I figure if I don’t even clean my own home I sure as heck won’t morph into some Etsy queen with a glue gun overnight. I enjoy paying someone else to handle the things I can’t or don’t want to do- come join me on the dark side! 🙂
Post # 12
I’m shocked I DIYed as much as I did (and I did it mainly because I’m cheap! 🙂 I’m not creative at all. But I learned a lot about my abilities, and now that the wedding is over, I’d like to find some new creative outlet 🙂 But if you don’t want to do DIY, don’t! I don’t think I’ve ever once gone to a wedding and wondered whether the bride made XYZ herself. Just like your guests won’t be thinking about that. I doubt my guests knew how much I DIYed, and assumed that I had the stuff done (heck, I kind of hope they couldn’t tell I did my own veil for less than $10!). The only thing that was an obvious DIY was our favors, because we put a tag on them explaining why we made them (we made salt dough Christmas ornaments). I was anti-favor until I thought of the idea, which was very personal to us. If I hadn’t thought of that, we wouldn’t have done favors at all, and that would have been just fine too.
Post # 13
not at all!!!!! i HATE DIY
Post # 14
I will be doing DIY with the intent purpse of it NOT LOOKING LIKE DIY. And, I am only doing two or three things. I’m quite artistic and sometings you really can’t buy. But no, you don’t have to do DIY to have an awesome wedding. In fact, you won’t run the risk of it looking more ‘shabby’ than’chic.’