Will our engagement party be lame?

posted 1 week ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Busy bee

Why would 8 or 14 people be considered lame?  If anything, that’s better than a larger group.  Think of it a lot like attending a house party type of gathering.  Sure, you can get up and walk around and talk to people, but you’re going to be doing more of your talking with the people you’re in earshot of and in sight of.  20-34 people would make that much tougher than 8-14.  Sure, you want everybody to meet, but I’m not sure a camping trip of that size is that great an idea.

I also don’t want to pour cold water on this (no pun intended given campfires), but it’s looking like COVID might be a problem again even for outdoor gatherings when you’re in close proximity for a really long time.  Outdoors is vastly safer than indoors, but the Delta variant is so contagious compared to previous ones that I’m not sure you’re safe with this type of gathering, for an entire weekend, especially since there aren’t likely to be masks on.

People might have COVID concerns just as I do, and it’s unrealistic to expect that every one of your guests will be able to make a summer weekend thing.  But like any other gathering, you can have a great time with those who will be there.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2001

I’m sure it be a lovely party – if you are happy then your guests will be happy too. As you are the one that sets the vibe for the party.  Decorations always make events seem a lot more festive too.  Maybe add fairy lights if you have powered sites.

Not sure why some guest have not responded.  Was your original text message an actual invite or just a message of interest?

Everyone is always enthusiastic on the initial invite of a destination party,  but I guess when they start thinking about the logistics of it all sometimes it is just not feasible.

 

Post # 5
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Worker bee

I think 14 people wanting to go camping to celebrate you sounds amazing!  

also please don’t use “lame” as an insult

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2021

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@stateofbeeing:  Covid is definitely still an active concern in our world, and will be for some time (especially if wealthy nations continue hoarding vaccines), but for those who have been fully vaccinated with one of the mRNA vaccines, they are considered protected against the delta variant. The covid vaccines have been shown to be highly effective against the delta variant, to the point where most experts don’t think a booster is needed at this time, since the original dose of two shots is so effective. Breakthrough infections are slightly more likely occur with the delta variant, but severe infections and hospitalization are currently rare for the vaccinated, regardless of which variant they are infected with. The director of the CDC says that 99.5 percent of covid hospitalizations are unvaccinated individuals. 

The CDC has not changed its guidelines saying that it is safe for vaccinated people to go about their regular activities.

I would link to all of this, but Weddingbee hasn’t liked links lately and has just deleted any of my posts with links 🙁 but you can easily look all this up online, from reputable news sources, Dr. Fauchi’s statements, and the CDC website.

The reason I took the time to post this is that I’ve seen a lot of posts on various sites lately insinuating that people who are vaccinated should keep saying home, not resume regular or semi-regular activities, stay away from gatherings, etc, because the risk is still too high. This leads some people who are “on the fence” about the vaccine to think, “Well, it clearly doesn’t work anyway, if I’m still at such high risk after I get it, so I might as well just not.” I know because I have a friend who’s told me exactly that. Obviously we should all still be paying attention to covid, making smart choices if there’s an outbreak in our area, and following our local and National health guidelines, but the truth is that, as of right now, with the variants circulating, if you are vaccinated, you are very unlikely to get covid, you are very very unlikely to get severe covid, and you are also very unlikely to pass covid onto someone else. These vaccines work.

Anyway, sorry for the tangent, but my friend is REFUSING to get vaccinated because “the vaccines don’t work anyway, you can still technically get covid” and it’s bothering the hell out of me, so I wanted to put my thoughts here for others to see. I won’t derail this post any further… Sorry, OP! 

 

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper

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@mcalgary:  Did you send out a casual inquiry re: interest/availability a month ago and then not follow up until a week before? If you didn’t solidify an invitation with details it’s easy to imagine that many people’s calendars would fill up.

There are a lot of things to which I’d respond ‘that sounds fun’ but the reality of them wouldn’t be workable for a hundred reasons. Eight people overnight and fourteen the day of sounds like a good turnout for an event like this. As long as you have good music, good food, good drink, good friends and good weather(!) you’ll have a great time. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

8 people camping sounds like a LOT of people to me!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

-some people might still be wary of corona

-it’s July/summertime and there’s other activities/events that are a priority or more important to others compared to your engagement party (not trying to be mean) that are happening the same weekend. 

-not everyone enjoys camping (like me and most people  I know IRL for example). They might have sounded “enthusiastic” at first but they just did not want to be up front with you because it might sound unsupportive.

 

 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

-some people might still be wary of corona

-it’s July/summertime and there’s other activities/events that are a priority or more important to others compared to your engagement party (not trying to be mean) that are happening the same weekend. 

-not everyone enjoys camping (like me and most people  I know IRL for example). They might have sounded “enthusiastic” at first but they just did not want to be up front with you because it might sound unsupportive.

 

 

Post # 10
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Busy bee

Is Calgary now considered rural lol??

Anyways, people get so few summer weekends, and monopolizing a whole one to celebrate a ring may be excessive. Had you had a party that lasted several hours instead of days you may have had more interest, but also maybe not. I know people who literally leave the city every weekend to make the most of summer/kids school break. Also, camping with 30 other people sounds… awful haha. I think your 8-14 will be more manageable and nice. 

Post # 11
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Honey bee

I am typically very much into unique outside of the box sort of parties, but IMO a two day camping trip for an engagement party is excessive.

I don’t think it will be lame, but I think you should be thankful for the people who have decided to come and not worry about why others declined regardless of how enthusiastic they originally sounded.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

Since when did engagement parties turn into entire weekend parties?!? This is OTT, OP. Not to mention you shouldn’t be hosting your own party. So be thankful for the people that want to come celebrate you all weekend.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

If you want a weekend to celebrate the engagement, will you want people to set aside a full week to celebrate the wedding? I think you actually have excellent turn-out considering the event. I would never rain on someone’s parade if they proposed a camping trip to celebrate something, but I also wouldn’t attend, as camping is most definitely not my thing. Perhaps this was the case with some of the people you invited? It is easy to support something when it is far in the future or a hypothetical, but a lot harder to commit when the time comes.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

Why not just be grateful for the people who are coming? Did you really expect all 28 people to come to an all-weekend event in the summer?

And like PP said, if you casually mentioned it a month ago and didn’t follow up until now, people probably made other plans if you didn’t solidify anything.

The summer is so short and so many events were postponed due to covid so there are a lot of other events going on right now that may take priority over an engagement party/weekend.

Add in that camping is a love or hate activity and it’s an entire weekend in the summer…sorry OP. I think it’s OTT as well and you’re lucky to have as many guests as you do

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