Post # 1
I didn’t know anything about men wearing engagement ring until he proposed, my parents told us about how we should exchange engagement rings (which should be plain bands, instead of a diamond engagement ring for the bride-to-be->which I am told to wear as a wedding band). The whole custom sounded pretty weird to us, but I thought it would be a good idea since I know how he careless he is about rings, one good example is our couple rings. He bought us the couple rings together when we just started dating, and we have been wearing them since, though it was sweet that he wanted to make this kind of relationship commitment, his ring is pretty banged up. Besides, I have seen our friends whose white gold wedding bands were all scuffed and they stopped wearing them.
So we went and found a tungsten ring for him, we were both very excited. I guess I was excited because it made me feel like I took part in this engagement, instead of just him proposing. He was excited probably because of the look (looks similar to this one: http://lovepromiseandring.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/01/tungsten-carbide-rings.jpg), he couldn’t wait to wear it. But since our engagement party took place, he didn’t wear it, probably because he never heard about men wearing engagement rings and didn’t want people to question if he wears one. After our wedding (1 1/2 week ago, yay!), he wears only the tungsten ring, and will only wear the white gold band on special occasion. Sometimes I hope people don’t mistaken his tungsten ring as just a piece of jewellery. Do people do that? I mean does it need to be of white gold or some rare metal for people to recognize that it is a wedding band?
Post # 3
A lot of men are opting for the tungsten bands, including my husband. If it is worn on the right finger, I dont’ think there is a questions at all whether it is a wedding band or not
Post # 4
nope, as long as it’s on the correct finger i think people get that he’s married!
Post # 5
My FI’s got a tungsten ring for his wedding band, and I know there are a lot of bees who’ve gotten tungsten for their men/women/themselves. It’s not the material of the band that makes it a wedding band, it’s the finger you wear it on and the ceremony behind it.
Post # 6
@Icey: Lots of men have wedding bands made out of different metals. Tungsten is very popular. Titanium too. I don’t think the metal matters at all. My brother’s is wood in titanium.
Post # 7
That tungsten ring is similar to DH’s and I don’t think anyone would get confused. It is very unusual for a guy to wear 2 rings. The only way I think someone would get confused is if it was a class ring or a ring with a silly design (like a skull or something).
Post # 8
As long as the ring is on his left ring finger, they’ll know. No worries! Lots of “alternative materials” are catching on these days.
Post # 9
I assume tungsten band on that finger = married man. It’s getting very popular for obvious reasons, I wouldn’t worry about it!
Post # 10
@Icey: my fiance got a tungsten ring as well…and oddly enough i have the same feelings as you sometimes. the thin gold (or whatever band) looks so “Im married”, i know thousands of men that have that ring and to me they look married.
My husband and i have been married for almost a year now *yeah* and everyone knows he is married even though he wears a dark, almost black ring on his wedding ring finger 🙂
Post # 11
My hubby wears a stand in ring for work and his gold band on weekends. Like PP said, as long as it’s on the right finger, he is married!
Post # 12
I agree, I think if its on the right finger, that hes married. I’ve seen a lot of men with tungsten wedding bands now a days.
Post # 13
My husband has a tungsten wedding band. And several of my co-workers have tungusten or titanuim wedding bands. It’s quite common now (I think most of the guys I know that have been married in the last few years have gone with an “alternative metal” and not gold or platinum), there’s no reason why it wouldn’t be taken seriously.
Post # 14
I think you’re WAY over thinking this.
Post # 15
Like PP’s have said, if it’s being worn on the correct finger, no one will question it!
My Fiance wants two rings as well, he wants a plain band for when he works (he owns a bar so he works with his hands and cleaning dishes etc.) and a nicer one for when we go out… I think this is actually a pretty common thing now adays. 🙂
Post # 16
Tungstan is the way to go!!