Post # 1
My DH just got me an anniersary band and I am debating if I should solder it together or not. Someone mentioned to me that I must do it right away to prevent the metals from rubbing together and weakening and then the diamonds will fall out. Will they damage one another if I DON’T solder them? I just got my band yesterday and I really do not want to part with my rings yet… but I also do not want to cause damage cause they are not a matching set and the band does twist a little. What would you do? Also, did you choose to solder them together or not? And if you did not solder them together, is there any damage to your rings? They do not hit my prongs for my center stone, so that is not a concern. I just want some help deciding here. Thank you!
Post # 3
I researched this a bit and it seems that if they are the exact same metal, you should be good for many years, but if they’re not the same metal, then you should definitely do something with them (or dont wear them together very often.)
Post # 4
Over time, unless the sides of your rings are very, very smooth (like a dome band) and flush set (so nothing against prongs) then yes, your rings will wear on each other simply via shifting, spinning, rubbing. Rings with shared prong settings, pave, softer metal against harder metal, that are not flush, with engraving or filligree, will often show this wear more quickly. I have seen rings with obvious wear within a handful of years, even when of the same metal.
I am getting my new rings soldered and they are with the jeweler now. While the sides are smooth they are uneven and rub when they move. I was hesitant at first but I would rather have soldered rings than rings that are worn down on sides and putting sidestones at risk. They are brushed 18k and I could already see the shininess from where they were rubbing after only two weeks!
After 2 1/2 years of marriage, I find I never wear my bands alone. If I am not wearing my ering, it is in a situation I do not want to wear my bands either as they are just as important to me. I wear stand in bands at gym, camping, etc. Bonus is it is easier to keep track of one ring over four!
Some get a thin spacer to eat the wear, which is an option, but not totally foolproof.
Post # 5
Thank you. They are both 14k white gold. My band is slightly contoured. It does spin a little right now and everytime I hear them clink I cringe a little lol… silly, I know. I just want to keep them nice forever. I am a nursing student and thought about keeping them apart to wear the band alone, but lets be real here… all kinds of crap will get caught under the band and I do not want to bring the hospital home with me.
My friend never got hers soldered and she has had no problems… I guess I just do not want to give mine up yet. Maybe in a few months. Man, I am having the hardest time deciding.
Post # 6
I will NOT be getting mine soldered EVER… here is why:
My Mum had a set of three rings, typical three piece set with diamonds in the sides and diamonds in a matching bands that were made to fit each side of the ring. She wore them with no issues but a little wear for more than 25 years. After this much time she took them to the jeweller to have them checked and he said they were starting to wear so to prevent further damage she should get them soldered. So she did.
Only a few months later the whole ring broke, because the rings still want to move with the finger but cannot so they pulled at each other and one of the side rings snapped on the top leading to 2 diamonds being lost and the ring having to be re made and she had to buy new diamonds.
The only a few months later, the other one broke.
Then the repaired one broke again in a different place.
After 25 years of non soldering the rings had never had any problems, less than one year after being soldered and she has had to stop wearing them and my Dad bought her a new ring to wear because they just keep on breaking. And they cannot be seperated or anything, they are just ruined.
So I surely wont even consider having my rings soldered, Id rather they simply wore out and get them re built up.
Post # 7
@Pink Turtle: To be honest, that just sounds like a bad soldering job or the rings were weakened and thinned too much by wear and tear over time by the time they soldered them (or a combination). Soldered rings should be strong and secure – like one ring. They should not want to move “on their own” and should be no more susceptible to breaking like that than if you bought them as a solid piece to begin with. I know people who have had rings soldered for 20-30 and aside from the usual scratching, they still look solid and new! Not all rings can just be built up either. Mine are handforged and could not just be built back up!
I am sorry about your mom’s rings. Why can’t she get them separated?
Post # 8
@Pink Turtle: Wow, that is horrible 🙁 I am sorry for your mom!
My solitaire enhancer is soldered like you describe, being solid and one ring. I could not even slightly move it if I wanted to.
Does anyone have any pictures of white gold against each other? Like wear? I just do not want to make an unstable environment for my stones. I think I have decided I will wait a few weeks and see how I feel about it. My mom never had a band, she just has a gorgeous setting, so she has no advice. Another question, since it is rhodium plated white gold, will it just wear down the rhodium plating or will it wear down the actual gold?
I am including pictures so you can see how they fit together and how it rubs a bit. Thank you for your help!