(Closed) Will somebody please talk me into this dress!

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I say if the girls love it and are willing to pay, then you shouldn’t worry too much about it.  A suggestion I have is that maybe you could possibly offer to buy jewelry or something for the wedding as their BM’s gift.  That way you’re not feeling too guilty about them pay too much.  I think the dress is really pretty, btw.

Post # 4
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10288 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’ve been a bridesmaid a handful of times and that is more than I would be comfortable spending. The more expensive dress that I have had to purchase was $150 which is also the max that I would ask my girls to spend. 

Post # 5
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7296 posts
Busy Beekeeper

if i understand you correctly, you found a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress you love, all your BMs love and they already have future purposes for it and so i assume they have not complained about the price?  and so you are the only one worried about the price for them???

i WISH that was my only money concern! (see my thread in “emotional”, lol).

basically, i think if the BMs are fine, then you have nothing to worry about!  if i was going to use a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress for prom as well, i would look at is as though i am paying $85 for each event! pretty reasonable, i think,

By The Way, i have been a Bridesmaid or Best Man 3 times, all while i have been a grad student, first 2 dresses cost over $200, third one was $100 because i discovered netbride.com

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper

oh and by the way, i LOVE that dress!

Post # 7
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3241 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

If they all love the dress and know what the price is, I wouldn’t worry.  To help them out, like someone else said, buy them jewlery, shoes, hair, makeup–or some combination of those so that they don’t have additional expenses.

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Hey, if they ALL love it and agree that they’ll pay the price for it… I say go ahead. Have one last chat with each of them and determine if they really are comfortable paying that much for one. The difference in a $150 dress and a $170 dress isn’t really that much, IMO. And I’m in college still, as well.

Unless they say otherwise, I see no reason to change it. Now it will be the one all of them go back to thinking about anyways and comparing others too. Let them decide.

Post # 9
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3564 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

If they like it and they have no problem paying that much, then GO for it!! You can decrease the overall cost by letting them pick their own shoes/jewelry/hair/makeup, etc. 

Post # 10
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7693 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

It’s gorgeous! No wonder they aren’t complaining.  Perhaps if they have shoes they already have they can wear, and like @DesireeAnne: mentioned, maybe you could pick up the tab for jewelry, or hair/make-up? 

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

That is the same dress that my Maid/Matron of Honor just chose. She loves it. I am paying for it for her, so price was not the issue for us. I think that if they are all ok with it and you like it, then get them. Especially if they can re-use them, even better.

Post # 12
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1371 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Maybe you could put some money towards each of the dresses?  I’m not sure if you have the budget for this.  I think if they all agree on it and haven’t complained, then it should be fine.  I paid $200 plus alterations for a dress when I was in university and had no money.  The bride then paid for hair/make-up and jewellery, and let us wear our own white shoes (which I already had).

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

That’s a really cute dress!  If they honestly love it and it could be worn again, then I think it’s completely worth it.  Look at it this way, say you pick another that is cheaper, maybe $125 (since I cant imagine it be very easy to pick one less than that) that no one likes as much and wont or cant use it again, then its $125 spent for just your wedding.  Then they only saved $45, but would they be able to find a second dress for $45 that they could use for a prom dress, or cocktail dress or anything?  Probably not.  Or.. say they get to use it again, that’s only $85 per use, that’s pretty good for a formal dress!  Go for it!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@kfricke89: Not at all.  The wedding is completely about you, not the BMs.  So, if you think this dress is perfect for your girls and you all agree on it, I say go for it!

Post # 16
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Helper bee

Gorgeous dress!!!

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