Post # 1
Ok, so the groomsmen/groom’s attire has been picked out – they’ll be wearing tuxes like these:
The ring bearer will be wearing a suit like this:
Now here’s the issue. Since we are having a traditional filipino wedding, we’ll also have little boys acting as coin bearers (http://ezinearticles.com/?The-Coin-Bearer-Explained&id=382120). My Future Sister-In-Law has triplet boys, 3 years old. As you can imagine, they are quite a handful. Fiance and I suggested that they be in suits as well, to match the bridal party. Future Sister-In-Law came back with these:
She says that they’ll be unconfortable in suits, which I totally get, and that it will be a challenge to even get them dressed in the suits. However, I feel like our wedding has a certain look – more formal and in a church. I think these would work more within a garden wedding. Now how do I convey my thoughts without coming off like an overbearing bride? Is there a compromise here? Or am I crazy? Thoughts please…
Post # 3
Ummm, i think they should wear suits, too. Jeans aren’t really appropriate for a formal wedding in a church.
Plus, how does she think dress pants and a sweater vest are LESS comfortable than a kids’ suit? My nephew is almost 3 (in 2 months!) and is perfectly capable of being forced into a suit. I just don’t think she wants to buy 3 suits and make them wear them, haha. But they’ll be adorable.
Just respond back, “i really want everyone in the wedding to be dressed formally.”
You can find suits on Ebay for cheap
Post # 4
I don’t think they necessarily have to wear suits, but the jean outfit is waaaay to casual and the first brown one with the dog won’t match the black the other men are wearing. I think they could easily get away without having a suit, perhaps a more casual pants outfit in colors that will match your ladies??? Or somthing similar to the first outfit with the dogs but in a black or grey combo.
Post # 5
I think you could compromise and have the kids wear suit pants and a cute sweater vest or vest.
BUT if the vibe of your wedding is formal, then just do suits. I think what she picked is WAY too casual, but I think you could find a happy medium.
Post # 6
Well if not a suit, something along the lines of what bakerella suggested – vests and suit pants. Jeans? Definetly not.
I would ask that they wear suits.
Post # 7
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What she picked is definitely too casual. I like the idea of suit pants and a sweater or vest – then it’s not a full suit, but it’s still at least more formal!
Post # 8
Thanks for the thoughts ladies – She even suggested shorts!!
Post # 9
Yeah, those outfits your Future Sister-In-Law came up with are way too casual. I really don’t like that puppy one… why does it look so sad?? lol.
I think you should gently push for suits… seriously, I’ve seen so many little boys in suits at weddings. I’m sure they can deal.
Post # 10
I agree with the idea of the middle ground…vest and nice pants, but maybe not a SUIT suit. I think the outfit Bakerella found is a good kind of look. Maybe that, with colors to match everyone else.
Another option for compromise is maybe having the boys wear the outfit for the ceremony and pictures, and then have them change afterwards. It seems like the most important times to dress formally are during the ceremony and any photos, so maybe she could agree to that. And, little kids are resilient. They can suffer for an hour and bounce back just fine 🙂
Post # 11
I think if the ring bearer is in a suit, the coin bearers should be too. If you had your ring bearer a little more casual, you could get away with something like bakerella suggested for the triplets, but since you didn’t, the triplets really need to match the formality of everyone else.
If you want to, you could compromise and let the triplets change into something a bit more casual for the reception – maybe nice slacks (not jeans!) and the sweater/button down that your Future Sister-In-Law suggested (the ones she paired with jeans). That way they can be more comfortable then but will still match the formality of the event for the ceremony.
Sidenote – my two 3 year old ring bearers are wearing tuxes so don’t let anyone try to tell you that she can’t get three year olds in suits.
Post # 12
How about something like this?
$30 from Amazon and it’ll match MUCH better than those jeans or awful sweater vests (no offense to anyone who likes them).
Post # 13
@SanDiegoAli – that outfit is perfect!
I think they can be comfortable in some elastic waist black pants, dress shirts, and vests (sweater or button down).
Post # 14
I also like the outfit that SanDiegoAli posted, but I would do it with black slacks instead of black shorts. Shorts are still way too casual for a church wedding with others in tuxes and suits.