- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2014
I am having a guest quandary. I would prefer a smaller wedding partly because I am a pretty private person, but also because I am having a hard time swallowing the cost of a wedding and would like to keep costs minimal. Even though my parents are paying, I see it as wasteful (and we have a budget of about $9,000 in Southern CT). Let me present my issue. I have three guest “groups” – I call them that because we all know that simply inviting some members of a “group” is certain to cause waves.
Group #1: Our immediate family and closest 3 friends each- about 30 people
-This is the group that is pretty much guaranteed to come
Group #2: My church choir and their spouses – 15 people
Group #3: My extended family – 30 people
All 3 groups, for a total of 75 people, is more than I would like. And, in truth, I am not very close to much of my family. Basically, I would love to invite one side; the other side I see rarely (maybe once or twice a year), and I find them to be judgemental and unfriendly. To be frank, I don’t want to deal with that on my wedding. All of my family, both sides, live in my town. The side I like is extremely understanding and kind; my cousins are going to do my hair and makeup even if they are not invited to the wedding. One of my cousins on this side is getting married a few months after me, so I will see them all then.
My fiance and I talked about just inviting immediate family and my choir. I’ve been singing with the choir for about 5 years, so I have seen them twice a week for years. They are a ton of fun (we aren’t very well-behaved!) and just friendly people.
The problem is that I am afraid if I do so, the choir will find it strange that they are the only ones sitting there besides our immediate family. My fiance still wants a bridal party with our closest 3 friends, even if the wedding is tiny. I am afraid they will think I am a sad weirdo with no friends.