Post # 1
I’ve finally found a reception venue that doesn’t make me gag. It’s perfectly priced and we get alot of bang for our buck. It’s an important part of my fiance’s family history so I was more than happy to do it there.
My fiancee, bridesmaids and I are a little worried that no one will show up if the distance between the Ceremony and Reception is too far. The ceremony, as we would like it, would take place in the same area of our first date. It’s pretty central to most boros and New Jersey. Because I live in New York city and most of my guests do not own cars, I will be providing a bus from ceremony to reception and back to the ceremony location at the end of the event.
The real question is; is an hour bus ride between locations too long? My bridemaid stressed concern that people may want to leave early, the thing is, no matter if the ceremony was in the city or not, the reception will still take place an hour from the city. Would you be willing to travel that much for a wedding?
Post # 3
Honestly, its a bit far.
Lets play it out:
I arrive to the ceremony in the city at 4pm.
After the ceremony, I load the bus at 4:30, I arrive at reception by 5:30.
We eat dance and be merry, but by 7:30 I need to leave. Ok, so I take the bus back to the city. The bus gets to the city again by 8:30, and doesn’t turn back around to get to the reception site until 9:30. That means guests are stuck for at least two hours waiting for a ride.
I think its a bit much. Why do the venues need to be so far apart? Our venues were about 25 minutes apart but everyone had their own vehicle.s
Post # 4
I think anything more than 30 minutes apart for ceremony and reception is too far. Sorry!
Post # 5
The reason why they are so far apart is because the ceremony venue has sentimental value to us, but while I looked for almost a year, I could not find a resonably priced venue in NYC. The reception venue that we did book, we were able to get a discount for because my fiance’s father is a veteran and also an employee. I really did try to keep it within the boros, but my only choices were catering halls with seriously bad reviews, the overly expensive restaurants, or extremely small spaces.
So what Ive heard so far is people will travel to a ceremony and reception that is an hour away but won’t like to travel that distant inbetween the functions? Or is an hour drive to any wedding unheard of? Because all the weddings Ive been to were pretty far (2 in California), but the ceremony and reception were somewhat close to each other. Just confused.
Post # 6
@Miss Moxy: Yeah, basically. People will travel a great distance to get to a wedding, but they aren’t likely to travel a big (30+ minute) drive in between the ceremony and reception. I think driving an hour between a ceremony and wedding really inconveniences your guests, and I would be really annoyed if this was the case at a wedding I was invited to.
Post # 7
I think most people I know would be happy to take a one hour bus ride to the reception. The challenge would be that people are then dependent on that bus to get home and therefore restricted to whatever service you decide and what time you decide to send them home. The solution would be to have a shuttle but that comes with a pricetag.
Post # 8
I’m going to be honest here… I went to a wedding this past spring that did something similar and I hated it. Yes, you’re providing the bus and that’s awesome. But people are going to get bored on the bus, and antsy. If I had to do it again, I’d probably skip the ceremony.
I understand that the ceremony space has sentimental value to you, but I would look at finding a new place for the ceremony, closer to the reception.