(Closed) Will this make guest uncomfortable or chuckle?

posted 9 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 17
9947 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Taking off your shoes is going to be waay too time consuming and a head-ache logistically (see yourself balancing on one foot, trying to get in and out of shoes while in a wedding dress).

Having the Groom stand on a rock is way more light hearted IMO…

Also, it is technically the day you as the Bride should be honoured… so by him making the concession to stand on a rock, versus the more difficult act of taking off your shoes (and the whole idea that you are coming to his level) …

Will give the appearance of being more respectful… ie your LOVE elevates you both.

Not to mention, tons funnier !!

If it is an outdoor ceremony, just have the rock incorporated into the landscape somehow… you walk down the aisle, with all the attention on you… and just as you get to the end of the aisle, you can reach out take each other’s hands… and then he can step up onto the rock.

Guaranteed to get a chuckle from the guests !!

And a very personalized moment in your ceremony, if you are both OK with it.


Post # 18
2324 posts
Buzzing bee

I perosnally think it would be a bit odd, but i guess that it also depends on how it’s conveyed – if Fiance goes bright red & looks uncomfortable so will everyone else. But if he has a grin from ear to ear, that will also get ppl smiling

Post # 19
3175 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I like the step stool/rock ideas, best. I definitely wouldn’t feel uncomfortable regardless of what you decide to do. I just know that I hated hassling with shoes the first time I had to put them on the day of my wedding, I would not want to worry about switching them at an already nerve wracking moment when all eyes are on me!!

Post # 20
1755 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think you’d get more forced awkward laughter than legitimate laughter and it seems like it would detract from your ceremony.

Post # 21
83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

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@Cappugcino:  I second this. 

Since you asked for our honest opinions, I think it’d be a little strange.  I guess it depends on the type of ceremony you are having.  For us the ceremony is more serious and religious so it would be just so out of place.  If you are having a more casual, less traditional ceremony then maybe.  But you’d still just get uncomfortable laughter from me (sorry!). 

You may also want to check with your officant, especially if he/she is a pastor/reverand/other religious official.  He/she may not take to kindly to the disruption in the serious ceremony.  Our’s is amazing but I don’t think he’d like the idea!

Honestly, if you want to wear heels, wear heels and don’t worry about switching.  It doesn’t sound like it bothers your Fiance if you are taller so just own it!  Why can’t the female be taller??

Post # 22
104 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I have the opposite problem! My fiance is 6’3 and I’m 4’11. I’ve contemplated getting something to stand on for comedic relief as well!

If he’s cool with it, I think the rock or something of the like is a cute idea and personalizes it.

I wouldn’t want to do a shoe change during the ceremony. Maybe at the reception…

The other cute thing I’ve thought about is pulling out something to step on for the dance floor during our first dance…


Post # 24
1021 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think it’s cute and actually kind of endearing. Plus if you want to get deep about it, it could be a symbol of you stepping down to meet him where he is, or something like that.

Post # 25
547 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would nix the shoe changing, but the rock idea makes me chuckle.  🙂

Post # 26
1468 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

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@AJester2:  haha thats funny!

Its your wedding nobody will be offended no matter what you do 🙂

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