(Closed) Will this plan backfire?

posted 11 years ago in Waiting
Post # 33
1135 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

IF he asked ..sure why not. But I wouldn’t bring it up out of nowhere…because then it might make him resentful more than anything.

Post # 34
409 posts
Helper bee

I say you can bring it up in a very nice conversation way. Let him know you spoke to your Mom and …..happened. I feel like honesty is the best policy. Always be open and keep it 100% with your mate. You have already held it from him this long. And because it’s on your chest you might as well get it off. I believe in NO SECRETS wihen it comes to relationships. I would tell him so he will know the truth yeah he may be a little bothered but oh well. If he truly loves you he will get over it. And a real man wouldn’t start not liking your Mom etc. Just because he should know she just wants whats best for you. That MAY push him to see that he has something to prove. But that’s it. No harm no foul. Good LUck!

Post # 36
354 posts
Helper bee

DO IT! im tired of their bull chyt. like seriouly. 


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Post # 38
722 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Am I the only one who thinks she should tell him for the sake of honesty??

If you’re only telling him to try to speed things up, then no, I don’t think you should, but your mom trying to set you up (however normal in your culture) seems like it has the potential to be kind of a big deal for your relationship! I would immediately tell my boyfriend anything of that nature because we have an honest and open relationship.

Post # 39
3997 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@kirabee: I completely agree! You took the words right out of my mouth haha (:

If you’re just trying to push him to propose then I think it’s a bad idea, but if you want to tell him for the sake of being honest with him then I think you should.

Post # 40
651 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

NOOOOOOOO don’t do it!!! Don’t bring that up! 1. It could affect the relationship he later has with yoru mother. 2. It can make him QUESTION if he is doing the right thing. Just have an honest conversation with him if anything!

Post # 43
13 posts

Hi, I suggest doing it. I come from a similar culture and understand how you feel. With my ex-boyfriend, I didn’t tell my mom I was dating him until 6 months later. And before that she would try to set me up and I always just gave her a different excuse. However, I always told my ex about it. There is no point in lying and it might hurry things along for you. 5 years is a really long time to wait, especially in our culture. Just 2 weeks ago, my mom tried to set me up and I told my current boyfriend. I would expect the same from him.

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