(Closed) Will we be able to get married??

posted 7 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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110 posts
Blushing bee

There is no reason that your husband can’t be baptised.  Many adults who have been married later decide to join the church and there is no problem baptising them.  Marriage has nothing to do with becoming a member of the Catholic church.  I think it might be time to find a different church if yours is being so troublesome.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

What you are seeking is called a convalidation.  I’m not an expert, but as far as I’m aware, your husband should NOT have to get baptised for you to convalidate your marriage.

I recommend calling the bishop’s office of your diocese.  They will be able to give you the RIGHT information, and find a priest who is willing to work with you.  Please find your diocese’s website and call their office.  The priest is not the right person to be asking in this case.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Your husband does not need to get baptized first to have a convalidation (though if you want to receive the sacrament of marriage, that is only for people who are baptized. Either way it’s still valid.) Being married will not prevent him from getting baptized. 

I’m really sorry you had that experience. Keep praying and keep the faith. It will work out! God won’t turn people away.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@CatholicBee: I don’t get the impression that OP didn’t understand the previous discussion.  It sounds like the priest she talked to (as mentioned in the previous post) hasn’t made any progress on their case, and that she’s starting to feel frustrated.

@aguilpul: Please do call your diocese office to get this squared away.  They are used to handling situations like yours and will be able to give you straight answers.

Post # 8
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184 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If its such an issue with that preist, go to another catholic church. I’m sure you can join another catholic parish with a priest excited to a non-catholic a catholic, unite a marriage in the catholic church, and have new parish members! :o)

Post # 9
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244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My parents got married in a civil ceremony, then my dad got baptized and became Catholic, then they had a “blessing ceremony.” I know it sounds skeevy, but you could always have him baptized in another Christian church. The Catholic church recognizes any Christian baptisim, as long as you have the certificate. (I checked b/c my Fiance was baptized at a non-Catholic church, but the priest said it was okay as long as he was baptized)

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

My extended family is Catholic and so is Fi & his family. I was never baptised and I understand how frustrating it can be when the church seems so unwelcoming and when another person gets to judge your faith. From what I’ve found, it really depends on the specific priest/parrish you are working with. I’d follow up with the priest from your home town and consider looking into other Catholic churches in your area. 

I know how hurtful and frustrating the “rules” of Catholicism can be…try not to let these issues with a church interfere with your faith and your relationship with God. I’m actually reconsidering whether I want to be baptized Catholic and am considering looking into the Episcopalian churches in my area.

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