Post # 1
I’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 years. I’m ready to get married but I don’t want to push him into a decision, I’d like him to come to that decision on his own. He was with another girl for several years, whom he broke up with because she wanted to “settle down” He says with her it just wasn’t right. We live together (which is farther than he got with her) but I wonder if he will ever reach marriage. He does speak about it in passing, and does say he wants to be together forever. Does anyone have experience with something like this personally? How should I go about bringing it up?
Post # 3
How do you bring it up? You just… I don’t know. Just bring it up!
Surely at some point you’ll find yourself in a conversation that revolves around weddings, marriage, buying a house, etc. I don’t think it would seem so strange if you were like, “Do you think you’ll ever want to get married? Not to me, but to anyone?” If he does, then you can tell him you’ve imagined married life with him and see where the conversation takes you. If he doesn’t, then you may need to reframe your expectations of where the relationship is heading, and if you can accept that marriage may not be part of your life with the guy you love.
Post # 4
I don’t think anyone should come to a decision on their own, getting married is a partnership decision and one that should be discussed openly. I think you straight up bring it up and say exactly how you are feeling and ask about his thoughts for the future.
Post # 5
If you don’t want to be too direct, the next time he says he wants to be together forever, lightly ask “And what do you mean by together forever…just like this or something more?”