Post # 1
We are getting married next summer. At the time we set the date and started booking vendors, I was set to graduate from the nursing program in May. However, it’s been hard and I decided that this is information that is critical that I know and I didn’t want to just “rush through it” barely understanding the topics. I love what I’m learning and I wanted to know the information and be an effective nurse. So, I changed tracks (from accelerated to traditional) and discovered that I would only graduate a semester later than I had planned (from May to December).
This week I just found out that because I am no longer a “priority” for certain classes, I may not graduate next December, and I may graduate the following May of 2013.
Anyways, my fiance has been SO supportive. It’s been really difficult for me and I’ve been in counseling trying to manage the stress (apparently nursing students are the #1 clients at my school’s counseling center….). But when I told him about possibly graduating May 2013 he was really upset. He said he wants to be married and start our lives together without me being depressed, stressed, and somewhat absent-minded because I’m distracted by school and exams. And I want this with all my heart. I feel so burned out that some days I’m tempted to just drop out and resume later (if only I’d have a job in the interim!). I mean this is a man who wants kids so badly and I’m already having to postpone because of school, and etc, etc.
He apologized for making me feel bad about how upset he was and that he’s supportive and he doesn’t want to postpone the wedding (that was briefly discussed because I think he doesn’t know how to tell his parents that I’ll still be in school for another year after we get married–something I know they will be incredibly upset about). I want what he wants, but I can’t help that the nursing program is rigid and that I can’t get certain classes in order to graduate in December 2012.
Anyways, I’m wrapping this up because you might get the jist! I guess I’m just here to vent and wondering if any of you are in school during your first year of marriage? Maybe how that worked for you or how it’s not working for you, tips, or just comments to make me feel like I’m not alone.
Post # 3
I am going to be a year from graduating nursing school when we get married too. 🙂 Of course after his numerous major changes, Fiance is going to be 2.5 years from graduation so he can’t complain too much. I know it is going to be harder because we are extra broke and stressed but I decided it was worth it to go ahead and be married. Are you going for LVN, ASN, BSN? I’m a BSN-RN student right now. It’s a beast but totally going to be worth it when I’m a real nurse!
Post # 4
Hi I didn’t get married during my school, will do this December, when I already graduated for like 2 years… but I don’t think it will make any difference. Marriage will just bond you two more closely, right? Besides, one semester later is not that much different, just couple of months more, time flies fast~~ It will be extremely busy near graduation, I think it is great that you will get married before that busy time, and get more support from HIM 🙂
One of my classmates did exactly the same thing, she got married half year before graduation, and had a kid half year later after graduation.
you still have plenty of time to plan your wedding next May, don’t let the stupid classes disturb your mood, your love is love, your life is your life, just plan it ahead, and embrace all the good days in the future:) Best of luck!
Post # 5
Why in the world would you being in school upset his parents???
We got married in October and I graduated in May of the following year. Within that time, we also spent a ton of time finding and buting a house, and then moved in right after I took exams. I would say, try to carve out at least a couple of hours a week that you devote to just him and your relationship. And try not to always go to him to complain and let off steam, leave that for your school friends
Post # 6
Yes, I will be going back to school once we are married. I don’t have enough money to pay for everything while wedding planning. Neither do I have the time. Don’t want the stress either. Good luck!
Post # 7
I’m not going to be a nurse, but I’m still in college (for my Bachelor’s) and DH and I got married this past June. Ideally I would have liked to have graduated before the wedding, but with working full time it was impossible so I’m graduating this spring. DH is also still in college, but he gets to graduate this December. And the semester before our wedding I had to take only 3 classes because wedding planning/DIY projects took over my life.
Post # 8
We both went back to school this year and got married in the summer, so we’re both old married farts in school. it’s not so bad!
Post # 9
While I’m not in school, DH just started his freshmen year of school almost two years into our marriage. So, considering he has 3 1/2 more years of undergrad, 1-2 years for masters, and who knows how long if he choose to get his PhD….we’ll be well past the newly wed stage and dang near into my mid 30s when the hubs is finally done w/ school.
Post # 10
Depends on the age. I’m a “mature” student. My version of “mature” is older than nearly all of my classmates.
… at 27 years young.
Post # 11
I won’t be graduating until Oct. 2013. We’re getting married July 2012. I’ll probably also be going to get my Masters, too, so I might not be totally done with school til 2015/16.
Post # 12
I will be smack dab in the middle of finishing my masters degree.
Post # 13
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I got married during my third year of law school, so I was still a student for the first month and a half or so of our marriage (and then I was studying for the bar for the next two and a half months, which is basically like being in school full-time?). It worked really well for us, because it gave us a little bit of time to adjust to one change (being married) before we adjusted to bigger changes (both working full-time instead of one/both of us in school).
Post # 14
I know the feeling. I decided to go to nursing school after not finding a job in my major for 2 years. At that point, I was only 5 months away from getting married. I ended up starting school one week before my wedding. Needless to say, it became a little bit stressful. However, everything has worked out and my husband is very supportive of my decision. Unfortunately, he also wants kids soon and I said I really don’t think it’s a good idea until after I have graduated. I also still have to apply to a nursing program (I haven’t yet, due to fulfillinng pre-requisites), so my tentative graduation date is up in the air. For now, he seems understanding, but likes to hint at and joke about me getting pregnant pretty often. I just hope he doesn’t resent me for not wanting to have kids right away!
Post # 15
Wow. There’s a lot of people out there! 🙂
In response to chasesgirl, I’m getting my BSN-RN, as well. I love it, but it’s certainly hard work, so I don’t blame him for wanting me to be done. He’s graduated and has all this spare time, but when I get home, I still have to study! Not to mention, I have 12 hour clinical shifts on the weekends and he has a regular 9-5 M-F job. It’s not the easiest on our relationship!
In response to MrsSl82be, his parents would probably prefer that I’m graduated and “set” for life. They probably think we’re too young, blah, blah, blah. I’m still in school, etc. I mean, I love them and they’re wonderful, but they have certain views…. and need to make sure their precious baby boy is taken care of. Is that too much? That might have been too much. Haha, I understand where they are coming from, but he has been out of their house for at least 4 years and has a grown up job with salary and benefits…
I guess I’m alright with only being a one-income family, but I know he just wants me to be a “wife” and have “newlywed” experiences with out school draining the life out of me.
Post # 16
We graduated within 6 mo of each other with bachelors’, got married 6 mo later, and now I’m applying to go back to school – whoo!
We’re actually excited about it though, I’m enthusiastic about getting my PhD and he wants to move, and we already wanted to put off kids for like 10 years ha!