(Closed) Will you be married and still a student?

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Wow, that sounds difficult!

 

I won’t be a student, since I’m graduating in April and getting married in July. I kind of wish I wasn’t a student during the wedding planning process, too!

Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’ll have at least one year to go after we get married, possibly two depending on what I decide to do. I’m not worried about it. I almost wouldn’t want to try to adjust to marriage and finding a new job at the same time, I’m glad I’ll still be in school, which I’m comfortable with and know. I know nursing students have one of the most stressful tracks in school but it sounds like you’re dealing with the stress well with counseling and slowing things down, so I wouldn’t worry. And I don’t really care what my parents or his think, but I’m not sure why they would care if you’re in school?

Post # 19
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@amidette: understood!! They should justbe happy you are close to finishing and will be able to easily make a career out of your schooling. 🙂

Post # 20
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3068 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Yep:) We are married and both in school He has two years left and I still have 5, boo.

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Yep, I will most likely still be finishing up my PhD unless my project decides to start working, I can publish ASAP, start writing my thesis, and graduate this summer. Highly unlikely… but a girl can dream right? I guess it’s a good thing because it’d be difficult finding a new job and having to take time off for my wedding right away in October. 

Post # 22
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Busy Beekeeper

well i have been a grad student for too long, so ya, we were both students when we got married. i still am. Darling Husband finished a few weeks ago.

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I have 2 semesters left of my BA and my whole MA. Darling Husband has been really supportive during it all. He knows that I need to get my work done and can’t always spend a lot of time solely with him.

I can see how a BSN-RN would be difficult but it shouldn’t be impossible.

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’ll be finishing off my PhD when I get married 🙂

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

i started my phd a month after we got married, so i’ll be a student for like the first 7 years of married life! dh has been really supportive but it’s definitely been a big lifestyle change for us–for the 4 years we’d been together before i was working and had a more standard schedule, whereas now i’m doing schoolwork almost all the time. but while i’m busier and often under a lot of stress, i do think i’m happier because in the long run, this is the track i want to be on, i’m doing what i love. it’d be much harder if i had serious doubts about it since it’s such a long road. and it’d be infinitely harder if dh wasn’t supportive. i have a stipend from school but it’s waaay less than my old salary was, so our income took a huge hit (we lived together before so joining expenses wasn’t a change), but we’re lucky in that we can manage that loss

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Both my husband I are/were grad students when we got married in July. We  work full time M-F 8-5, and school at night Tuesdays and Thursdays.

I graduate this May and my Darling Husband makes up two classes afterwards since he joined my program late. It was doable. Very busy, but doable.

I knew I needed to do it now rather than wait. It’s nice having him in all my classes and hopefully we wot be so poor in the future.

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I also was right in the middle of my MA when we were married in July. I will be graduating in May, and while I certainly don’t regret marrying when we did (have to finish school regardless!), I am a little resentful, maybe, of the fact that I can’t help to contribute as much to the household. Well, can’t contribute anything. I’m currently an unpaid intern – which is so extremely frustrating. 

But luckily, Darling Husband doesn’t hold any bad feelings about the fact that he’s the sole earner right now, and is very supportive.

Post # 28
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Sugar bee

Yup, I’m still in school. I’m in my last semester and it has been a bit tricky trying to juggle everything, but sometimes you have to make it work! I don’t want to not be married when I go active duty, so this was the only time I knew we could do it!

Post # 29
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I will be in my Masters degree. I graduated this past May. He graduates in December of this year – he is a non-traditional student. But I will start my Masters degree in January (long story, lol). I’m not too worried about it because we’ve already done “stressed out school” together because I did accelerated in my Bachelor’s degree and finished it in 3 years while we were living together. I think he’s soon the worst of it some days. Poor guy.

I know the Nursing programs are really hard and it’s great that you’re taking your time. You’re right – you need to know this stuff forever to be a great Nurse! I will recommend NOT dropping out. Trust me, life gets in the way. I have seen SO MANY of my friends drop out “just for a semester” or “just until next year” who have yet to make plans to go back. My Mom dropped out of her Masters program because she got pregnant with me and says she regrets it so much – it ended up taking her so much longer to go back because she had more babies after me. Like I said, life got in the way. Priorities changed. Finish school before babies, you’ll be so glad you did.

As to what you’re saying about your Fiance and his parents… If they want you to enjoy newlywed things, then you don’t want to resent those things. You might grow resentful when you realize your job opportunities and you realize how many jobs are out there for people who already have their degree. They need to realize that you have to “do the time” to reap the benefits. Is it fun? No. But so worth it.

Post # 30
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Busy bee

I already have my bachelors degree but I might to back for another in Nursing instead of education with the way that the market has been. I’d probably start after the wedding. 

My Fiance will be starting his grad school after we get married. 

Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I will be in my last year of undergraduate when we get married. I plan on applying to medical school or maybe a masters program, not positive yet. Don’t feel bad though! You will be out soon enough and making good money 🙂

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