(Closed) Will you be married and still a student?

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 32
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012 - Historic Cedarwood

I finished nursing school in August, and I just want to say that I totally understand the stress, because it is without a doubt a lot of hard work. I think you need to do what is best for you. It sounds like you have taken good steps by going to counseling, and if lengthening the program a little bit is going to make you not only a better nurse, but a less stressed person, then it sounds like that is definitely the best decision. Some people may not be happy about it, but you are very lucky to have such a supportive husband-to-be, and I think being in school while you are married can definitely work. My sister got married in May and started Med School in July! It will be nice for you to have stable support from your HUSBAND as you finish up school

Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My first year of marriage will also be my (*hopefully*) last year of my PhD program. I’m 25 (and will be 26 when I graduate), and that just made me sound and feel sooooo much older.

Post # 34
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Helper bee

I got engaged in the final months of my PhD and it really helped to force me to relax a bit and think happy thoughts (i.e. oooooh pretty flowers!) On the other hand, the final months are horrible (they were for me) so make sure you keep the balance between work and play as it’s easy to go over the edge, work like a maniac, push family and friends aside and watch yourself crumble. Or maybe that was just my experience. I’m somewhat glad I didn’t actually plan the wedding during those final months as I think at that point I would have just considered it yet another stress factor and gone even battier than I was. But ladies, whatever happens, there’s light at the end of the tunnel and you’ve got 2 amazing days to look forward to, the wedding and the final day of your studies!

Post # 35
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I am smack dab in the middle of my degree 🙁 will be in school for at least two more years after we’re married…. lucky I have a supportive FI!

Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

We got married this august and i don’t graduate until next June. We work it out on one income and if anything i have found the stress easier to deal with since we got married. 

To add further complications, because of the university i attend we live apart during term time. Its real tough, but we work it out because we’re a family now and i haven’t regretted our decision to get married before graduation for one second. I know i would have regretted waiting another year.

Post # 38
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am a nursing student as well, getting married next June. It is nice to see others are in the same boat and that it is doable to both be a student AND plan a wedding! Sometimes it doesn’t quite seem that way… 🙂  I am also very lucky to have a very supportive FI!

Post # 39
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I won’t be in school still, but Fiance will!

I got my Associates in Photography, and have been out of school for 1.5 years – have a job in the field and everything. Fiance is 3.5 years in to a 6 year doctorate program in Physical Therapy and will still have 2 years to do after we get married in May. It gets rough sometimes but we know in the end it’ll be worth it! It’s a lot of pressure on me being the sole breadwinner for 2 years as well, but we’ll manage. 

Good luck to all the other couples in college!

Post # 40
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I got married this past August- exactly half way thru x-ray school. I had to pick our date based on our summer break, or else I’d have pushed the wedding into fall. My Darling Husband is very supportive of me, even tho he’s the sole bread winner and I’m affectionately known as “leech-wife” hehehe! It’ll be worth it in the end!

Post # 41
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Still A student as well… and will still get married as a student.. * sigh*

Post # 42
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I timed the wedding so I will graduate with my masters a week (or two) before the wedding. When we got engaged I was two weeks away from finishing my bachelors. I was already applying to masters programs and since we were moving for me to go to school, it made the most sense to wait until I was finished to get married. I’ll be done with classes in December (less then 2 months – I can’t wait!!) then I just have graduate project to complete next semester while working/interning full time. 

Post # 43
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We are both BA students right now, our wedding is just after finals, 2 weeks before our graduation. Thankfully we have the “College Hire” thing working for us in the job department and Fiance already has a job offer and 2 more potential ones, but he is still looking for more. I have 1 potential job offer (1 more interview to go!) and will hopefully get the job and start my Masters part-time, or I won’t get the job and just go straight to Grad school. 

I totally get the time constarint thing. My FH is NOT looking forward to all the work I’ll have to put in for school but he supports me nonetheless. In part beacause he wants to have babies sooner rather than later and I want to get my schooling out of the way.

Post # 44
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@amidette: your life sound slike mine!seriously, except I’m TRYING to get into a nursing program and wont find out until next spring/summer if I get in. Fiance know I want to finish school before having kids and is supportive but is extremely bummed we have to wait so long because once I do get into a program it’ll be 2 years before I graduate. stick with it, it’ll be worth it!

Post # 45
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m getting married Aug 2012 and I’m graduating with two associates degrees in May 2012. So for awhile I will not be in college, but I plan to return in a few years to get a degree in ultrasound or radiology. I’m burnt out at the moment and need a break. 

Post # 46
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

We both graduated with our BAs two months before the wedding. We got married, then moved out of state 5 weeks later so that I could start my graduate program. I’ll graduate with my MA in clinical psychology in May, and I will have my doctorate by May of 2015 as long as I place for internship my first round.

Is it stressful? Yes, a little bit. But my husband has a full time job with benefits. We’re not wealthy by any means, but we have enough to cover our bills. We both agreed to this before we got engaged though. He’s happy to be the primary breadwinner, while I work two part-time jobs and go to school full-time.

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