@AmeliaBedelia: Thanks for your encouragement. I completely understand how much of a bummer it is for him to have to “share me” with school. I’d love to come home and be DONE like him. And the last thing that I want is to have an additional stressor on the first year of our marriage, like him. But I think right now he just can’t see the advantages — especially since being a one-income married couple after financing a wedding and honeymoon is a huge disadvantage—even if a lot of people do it!
@dalmatian: That is a great point. Husband = support system. Just need to make sure husband has wifely attention instead of sitting on the couch playing video games and eating take out all the time, haha!
@mrsbacon: That was great. I was semi-worried this morning that maybe everything won’t be “solved” by married. I mean, this whole time, I’ve been like, I just want to be married, life will be easier. Major finances behind us. Focus on the future, etc. But this morning, I was like, but what if he doesn’t feel like that? Haha, so thank you!
For everyone else who is on this board and will be a married student, these women give great advice. Yes, every situation is different, and I still need to convince my Fiance to cheer up a bit (he is contemplating moving the date, and I’m just like what is that going to matter? Wedding behind us or in front of us? Stress over or prolonged? We live together! Nothing will change expect we can start saving money! hahahahaha, men…)
But, thank you for the advice to those who offered it. And for those who are still a married student, at least we do have someone there to be our rock when times get stressful.
I had a really rough week last week to the point that I just cried because I couldn’t do pizza dough right. I was really mentally depressed and not doing well. He was a little upset about what happened (because I did lash out on him), and ten minutes later he said I need to keep things in perspective, because that’s what he does. I may say something mean one minute, and it hurts him, but he still loves me and that’s all that matters.
I hate to brag, but my point was that I feel like that’s what married life will be. Having someone who loves you anyways and is someone who will hug you when you are so frustrated with life you want to give up. So, if you’ve read this far, keep planning you brides-to-be’s and thank you so much for the advice from the rest of you!