Post # 62
I’ll actually be a student because I’m getting married. I’ve been wanting to go back to school, and my fiance just happened to get a job at a local university. Spouses and children of staff members get free tuition! It’s a school I could never afford if not for the family tuition break.
Post # 63
Darling Husband and I are becoming never-ending students. I will be in school for a few more years. My grad program is three years!!!!!! And I have not even started! It is tough to be in school and working fulltime like Darling Husband, but what can you do?
Post # 64
I will be 1 year away from my Bachelors when we marry and will still want to get my masters. So yes! Might as well.
Post # 65
We got married about a year and a half after I finished my undergrad degree, then I was accepted into a graduate program that began the day after our one year anniversary. Two years later, I have finished the program and our marriage is still awesome! So, I went through two years of our marriage as a student, and all but 3 months of that have been without me having a job It can be stressful for sure, to be married and have something else that is basically life-consuming. However, 4 of my classmates planned gorgeous weddings during the time we were in school together, and have been able to find time to be newlyweds as well.
As for me personally, one of the best things to do to keep Darling Husband happy and feeling like a priority was to have at LEAST one designated night a week where I would not do homework, and we would go out to dinner or even just sit on the couch and watch a movie together. I know how tough it is and how hard it can be to try to relax when school is in the back of your mind. It’s all about finding the balance and what works for you Honestly, I feel that it gave us a really strong foundation for marriage because I saw just how supportive my Darling Husband could be, and it also taught us really valuable lessons about balance and budgeting (money and time!). Good luck to you, OP!
Post # 66
We got married spring break of my third year of law school! Graduated 2 months later!
Post # 67
We will get married within a month of both graduating from undergrad, but then, unless he gets a job that relocates us from where we are currently hoping to live (our hometown), I am going to pastry school, so I will be a pastry school student!
Post # 68
@amidette: I think if it’s what you need to do to be confident in the career you want, you have to do it. His parents’ opinions shouldn’t matter – you’re being responsible, dedicated and proactive about a really respectable career path.
Many people get married as students, and many people who have been married for years go back to school. It may not be the “ideal” situation, but I think it’s great that you want to take more time to really take in what your program is teaching you.
The hard part will be the finances – your Fiance may have to support you guys financially for the first year of marriage (which my Darling Husband did, although I frequently paid for groceries and meal excusions/deliveries) – hopefully your Fiance would be ok with that.
Maybe people just need to be reminded that this is just temporary, and it’s important since it’ll make you better at your job and is fulfilling to you – something your Fiance should be supportive of.
I suppose it’s sweet that he wants to spend the first year of marriage in a less stressful way, but he may be forgetting just how stressful/draining being a nurse is!